I have been involved with him for 8 months and he spends more time with me than his wife and kids.
2006-07-25 18:59:59 · 39 answers · asked by butterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do feel bad about the kids. His oldest is 17 and the youngest is 10. They seem to hate thier father. I have know the man for 4 years and just became involved 8 months ago. The wife and kids don't want him. Divorce isn't as easy as said.
2006-07-25 19:11:17 · update #1
stop bashing her!! He is not happy at home it seems and its not your fault he came to you..... But he does need to make a decision. Do you want to be with him? If you do you need to consider the fact that he does have kids and if you are going to be with him then you will have the ex and the kids to deal with as well. If you are falling in love with him and he loves you then its time to make a decision. Are you could just continue like it is if you can handle all of this but it seems like it is making you on edge. Good luck.
2006-07-25 19:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by paramedic9742 1 · 4⤊ 3⤋
come on!!!!!!!!! If this man will do this to his wife and kids, don't you think he will do it to you? If you think he loves you more than his kids then something is wrong with you and him. I would not want to date a man like that. If he will disrespect his wife and children the bottom line is that he will do it to you. Please don't listen to that tired excuse that men give. I am only in it for the kids. The kids will get hurt either way. When they find out there father is having a affair, or their parents are getting divorce because it is not working out. Which do you think will hurt the kids worst. Him staying and having an affair, or him leaving because he is unhappy. He is still married because he enjoy his wife and you are just his sucker. Stop this relationship NOW!!!!
2006-07-25 19:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by honey red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you! If this were your dad or your husband would you want him fooling around? He gives you a lot of his time now because you are giving him what he wants. Marriage is about faithfulness and commitment-----see what a creep this guy is.?
Yes, you can leave him alone. Pull your self esteem together and love yourself enough to have a man of your own. If he adores you like you think he does.......then he would be with you.
You are nothing more than a whore. You are doing nothing more than getting some attention that you need no matter who you hurt.
You might be involved with him for 10 years and you will never be number one in his life.
2006-07-25 19:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you. I think your not happy and thats why you ask this question, however, all you people need to back off her. Homewrecker, last time I looked it took two to tango, and if he is spending that much time with her, his wife must know and chooses to turn a blind eye to it, for other reasons. No one knows what happens from here, but where is your anger towards the husband or the wife in this case, it is not just the girlfriend. Grow up people.
2006-07-25 19:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U kidding?!? First off, no, you can't help that he came to you in theory, but you sure can help your response to his advances. Second off, he has kids!! Whatever has gone on with his wife you will never really know. They all make it sound like she got fat, or uninteresting, or uninterested in sex. Most of them are liars or embellishing and it is them who caused the breakdown of the marriage. From first hand knowledge if you think it will be different for you, you are wrong. I have seen many make the same mistake you are only to be left with a kid or two as the hubby runs around with some new whore. Last off, get a spine! You are acting like a witless whore!
2006-07-25 21:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by babyred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him with his kids and family.Stop being disrespectful towards ur emotions,which i guess are compassionate.The more u be with him,he would feel not leaving,think about his wife too.Kids and wife certainly wont like thei man loving other woman.
2006-07-25 19:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, you will not leave him alone, since he has his wife and his children to go to.
You leave because it is good for you.
1.Change your telephone numbers.
2.Move to a different locations.
3.Never talk to him again.
4.Go to bars and start sleeping with single, eeeeeeasy available men.
5.Enjoy your life because you are worth it.
6.You are a good person who simply made a mistake, and you can correct it now if you choose to.
2006-07-25 19:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone! Do you like hurting people (like his kids). It will never work out. Get your head out of the clouds and find a man for your own!There are plenty you know. Just look. Bad situation!
2006-07-25 19:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to enjoy for ever , pl do allow him to spend some reasonable time with his family and do not attach yourself mentally , just for the sake of enjoyment , no harm . But later you will feel bore and that time it will be very difficult for both of you to part . THEN THERE WILL BE MESS .
2006-07-25 19:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better get it into your head , he is married. Tell him you 2 better call it off. Would you want him to pull that with you.. I know it is hard, been there done that. He has a family and they need him more. Sorry but your doing the wrong thing. Pem
2006-07-25 19:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋