If someone criticizes you do you immediately become defensive, or try and hear what they have to say?

Answer 1

It depends on who they are and what they are saying. Sometimes the way they are saying it will tell me that it's not all about being "helpful" then I often let them ramble on for awhile as I think about what a jerk they are being, (if that is the case)...then many times I will just walk away...it's not worth being defensive with someone who is critical, they believe that they are right, and I don't. It's not my life's mission to convince anyone, I don't have to "kiss butt" for my job, and I don't do it in my personal relationships either. If someone is constantly critical, I exclude them from my schedule, and pass them to someone else, I haven't got the time for the pain.

If I respect the person who criticizes, I am more inclined to listen and respond in a kind but firm manner to reassert my own views. I do not mind discussing what others may question about my practices, but I generally have a good plausible, and resonable, "defense" for anything that might generate criticisms.

Answer 2

it depends what they are criticizing me about, and if whether or not i asked them. if the person is just being knick-picky and are being mean on purpose, or is being too harsh or is going above what was called for, yeah i would probably say something. but if they said something that i simply could not tolerate, then i would probably have a hard time controlling my temper. but if it is good advice or is constructive criticism then i would take it into thought.

Answer 3

Choose to hear what they have to say first, as that will make you learn of your strong and weaknesses. Analyse their comments so that you can enhance on your strong points and correct your weakness. Always take remarks and criticism positively, and soon you will have a much more beautiful character.

Answer 4

Hmmm....
well if they're just being stupid and not truly criticizing me, then I become defensive. Especially if the person doesn't know what they're talking about.
If someone experienced in the subject I'm being criticized in criticizes me, I listen because they know what they're talking about.

~*Toodles*~

Answer 5

One can learn so very much by taking criticism, and turning it to constructive suggestions. If the person that is criticizing you is truly being negative, this will blow his mind when you turn it to a positive note!

Answer 6

Depends on the way they approach it. If they are sarcastic or rude about it then I will shut down and either get very passive agressive or I will not speak at all or listen for that matterl. However, if they approach it with tact then I will listen to what they have to say.

Answer 7

Well, i'd say there's no harm of listening if what one said to me is true. It could be an input for me to improve myself. But if it is wrong, and i have everything to prove i'm right, i'll take the chance to give him/her some lessons...

Answer 8

If you don't get insulted then its good to take criticism in stride.
If you don't see whats wrong you won't see how to improve yourself, but then opinions are like assholes....everyone has one.

Answer 9

similar reason liberals do! they both are programed to react that way.Too many who say they love this us of a look to placed their own ego above it! those persons , no remember how they outline themselves , manage and obviate and argue previous reason to the detriment of the hardship-free solid.We look to have enable the discourse change into the purpose in our collective existence as a us of a.

Answer 10

I try to be a open,honest person But it just depends who & what it's about