he is still married..lol yeah crazy right.. his g/f Thinks that he is going to get a divorce in what 4 months.. they are supposed to get married November 9th or the 11th.. how the heck can i tell her in a nice way.. because i like this one..that there is no way that they are going to get married in 4 months without a divorce and without having the dress the hall or anything paid!!! I do not want to go pay for a dress that i am never going to use! the money has to be down as of yesterday.. and i been staling and trying everything to not waste anymore money.. I tried talking to my dad but that's a loss cause because he just says don't worry about it.. i know that he is just pulling her along so she shuts up about getting married.. i know i am going to hurt her feelings when i tell her i am not going to waste my money or my husbands money on a wedding that is not going to go off... whats the best way to tell her nicely?
i just got married a year ago and there is really no way in hell to pull this off without a divorce and without anything paid for!
2006-07-25 18:46:47 · 6 answers · asked by ~Mrs.C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he was married 3 times already one of them was my momma.. this will be his 4th.. if they ever make it there which i doubt!
2006-07-25 18:56:39 · update #1
ok i forgot to mention that she knows that he is married.. well she thinks that his wife filed for divorce.. but she does not stop and think. i went with my dad to the court house last year to see if he was divorced that maybe his wife got one when he was out of state.. and NOPE! she thinks that they are getting married in november and that the divorce is going to come out of think air!
2006-07-26 09:58:10 · update #2
wait it out don't say nothing
2006-07-25 18:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The clothes, the hall...those are all things that could be worked around. But if he isn't free there's no way it's going to happen. Especially if you have a good relationship with her, Tell Her he isn't divorced yet!
You remember in old movies the preacher says "is there anyone who knows any reason why these two should not be man and wife?" Long ago, before there were computer records, when people got married that was an important step--to make sure they weren't already married to someone else. Of course it's ridiculous to wait until the actual ceremony--if you know you should bring it up before then!
We were at the county register getting a business license recently--there was a guy there trying to get a copy of his marriage certificate. The girl couldn't find it and finally had to tell him "I don't think you're married". They'd had a friend do their wedding (you can do that, get a temporary permit to do weddings) who apparently hadn't done it right.
Funny for us to watch, but imagine he has to go home to the wife and kids and tell them...!
2006-07-25 18:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOO, do not tell her that your father is still not divorce yet. That is your father's responsibility. Instead focus on how his girlfriend is going to make a 5% profit off of you with the dress if your father actually comes around getting married. If they don't get married, they will be stuck with the burden of paying off the dress for the lies your father told his girlfriend.
Tell her that you are extremely tight with the money. That currently you do not have the money, but you do want to attend to the wedding with the appropriate clothing. You need help from your father to pay for the dress. Then make a contract saying the exact amount to pay for the dress base on a monthly basis after the wedding. Explain to her that this is her miscellaneous income of 5% yearly interest. Do the math calculation beforehand. In other words, find out how much the dress is after tax. Then you show the father's girlfriend how she is going to make a profit. At the same time in the contract, if she does not marry your father, then you owe no money because they did not keep their part of the deal.
This way if your suspicion is correct that there is no wedding, you will see how willing your father is going to agree.
2006-07-25 18:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her meaning his girlfriend? Just tell her he's still legally married. Normally I'd say to have your dad tell her, but that's not going to happen.
2006-07-25 19:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her! She will be so grateful.
2006-07-25 18:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her a copy of this
2006-07-25 18:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by luv2lysalittle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋