Despite showing him all the proofs he did not accept that he did it. Moreover he said that its possible that someone is hacking his email id, which i find hard to believe. Please suggest how should i confront him, coz i am sure he did it?
2006-07-25 18:18:42 · 35 answers · asked by Annette F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have already once tried confronting but he denied it. Now, also i know he will never admit and i cannot live in pretence.
2006-07-25 18:32:42 · update #1
XXXXXXXX make up an email address with Yahoo. Download a sexy picture from the computer. Email him and see if he'll email you back. Lots of men are caught this way or have a friend do it for you. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-25 18:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just tell him straight, you are flirting online and I know it.
don't fall for the "someone hacked my account thing"
and just how many other people out there have pics of your husband?
now you have to ask yourself, is it harmless fun, is he just
making friends. if so there is probably nothing wrong with him
talking online. I have several people I talk to online, and some of
them have my pic, doesn't mean I want them or anything.
It is just being friendly.
Now if he is taking it farther then you have to confront him, ask him why he is doing it. again is it just so he feels like he "still has it"? or are you guys having problems. I am no counselor, perhaps you should ask to be there when he is emailing her next time, make sure he tells her that he is with someone. Maybe ask to be included on the emails. So that you can talk to her as well.
Again if it is just friends, there should be no problem doing this.
but don't let this build and build till it turn into a big fight
start talking now, while it is a rather minor thing.
hope things work out.
2006-07-25 18:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by zaphods_left_head 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you confront him, do it calmly. If he is, then yes, he should be open and honest with you. Many men and women do make friends on the net, and email each other, but he should ask how you feel about it, since you are his wife. Do what is best for you, but do it in a calm way. Make sure you talk to him, til you get the answers or more proof. Always try to keep it calm. I wish you the best. I understand how you feel,still trust him til you know for sure he's not telling you the truth.
2006-07-25 18:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by nativeamericantay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did it he just doesn't have the balls to admit it to your face. What do you want to do? He's treating you like you are stupid. The first thing you do is send these women an email and ask if he bothered to mention that he's married, he probably didn't and they'll be mad enough to give you ALL the dirt, then he's caught red handed. beyond that give him a taste of his own medicine, or at least make it appear that you have and then say oh it wasn't me it was someone else. treat him like he's as stupid as he's trying to make you feel, then once he 'gets it' so ok do you want to keep playing or are you ready to straighten up cause i have a couple more rounds in me. he'll only pull this crap as long as he thinks he can get away with it, if he knows you are going to give as good as you get you'll start getting much better from him!
2006-07-25 18:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come right out and let him know exactly how you feel. Be firm. This is not a delicate situation. Not only is he disrespecting you and your vows, he is lying about it as well. He is also being so disrespectful as to treat you like you're stupid. You must let him know that in no way will you accept this. If you are worrying about loosing him...well if he ignores you and continues, you have already lost him.
I know that it is difficult for some wives to stand up to their husbands, but you just cannot just give away your self respect. If you allow him to walk on you, a path will be made up and down your back.
2006-07-25 18:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the way "Girl with Cows" thinks. She said "He could be "emotionally cheating", which means he is emotionally available to these girls. But I do not think he is "cheating". I believe this is a type of cheating with out cheating. He also may be angry with you over a long time and this is a way he can have an emotional outlet and be safe. I have a lot more thoughts on this but can not say them here. But I will say that this is a reflection on the way he is feeling about you. The e-mail relationship is giving him something he is not getting from his relationship with you.
Jim (John Doe)
2006-07-25 19:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by john doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to face the horrifiying truth which you seem to already know. Have a sit down with him. Be calm and don't raise your voice. Explain to him that you just want to find out what you both can do to improve the relationship, and if he is interested in fixing it. Don't dwell or discuss about the photos and e-mails ,as you both know what's up with that. Let him know there is a problem and how you feel. Then ask for and give suggestions on what to do about it.
2006-07-25 18:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down while the two of you are alone. You need to tell him what you have proof of him doing and tell if he tries to deny just say something like, "I have proof so i dont wanna hear all the lies!" Tell him that either he stops or you will take neccassary actions. Keep him guessing what that means. You need to be firm and make eye contact so he knows this is no joke. Do what you need to do because what he is doing is wrong and you dont deserve it.
~Rickeisha
2006-07-25 18:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Rickeisha AKA Keisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 00:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow, if you have seen the proof of what he did, he has done it. And even if there is something inside that tells you that you want to believe him, you know exactly what the evidence shows. He probably wont accept it, ever. There is a lot of men like that, you need to keep yourself strong and together to handle this one. Keep an eye on him and his behavior, if you see anything different on him, ask him. You need to look up for yourself.
2006-07-25 18:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by tourist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that he did it too, but weather you believe him or not you should definitely confront him and tell him how you feel. I think you should confront him when it is you and him face to face and be honest tell him that it hurts you when you see things like this and either way if you find out that it was him or if you see it again... you should tell him what you are going to do. Good luck!
2006-07-25 18:23:46 · answer #11 · answered by lindsaytejeda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋