my bf is leaving me and moving to michigan with or without me and my daughter who is 2 years old and my mother is dieing and he is very pissed that i wont move up there with him!!!
only Serious anwers on this please!!!! the doctors didnt give her very long to live either!!!! she is only 43 years old!!!! i dont want any ******* jokes either!!!! i dont want to leave my family behind. the last time i did that my granny died on my anniversary, feb.15, 2006. and i dont want that to happen again. i have had five 5 deaths in my family in a row within the last 4-5 months.
2006-07-25 18:16:49 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he is leaving me because i am spending more time with my mother and daughter instead of him. and now he is mad at me for that. and he said that he is tired of everything and everyone down here and he Hates my mother!! and all of his family is deceased except for his 35 yr old daughter and 2 grandchildren. and he said that he was moving there for good and he could care less if me and his 2 yr old daughter came with hom of not!!
2006-07-25 18:56:39 · update #1
we are from arkansas.
2006-07-25 19:00:24 · update #2
XXXXXXXXXX take your mother with you XXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-25 18:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably going to get a lot of answers which say that you are better off without him and that if he really cared for you he would understand etc etc.
Well this is all true.
You did not give a reason as to why he is moving to Michigan and how far away is that from where you are? ( I am in Australia)
If it is for job reasons and he wants to set up a life for you all there then that puts a whole new perspective on things.
If he is leaving you then.... stay with your family and do what is right with you. Do not look back on your life and regret a decision (like with your Granny).
I wish you, your daughter and your mother all the best.
Stay with your mother, this is a precious time not only for you but also for your mother and her grand daughter and if your boyfriend can not understand this then more the fool him.
Be strong and wishing you all the best.
Surround yourself with people that are truly there for you and not just pretenders.
***** I have just read your additional details. It sounds like he is a very possessive man and you will be better off without him ,,, really! It sounds like there is an age gap between the two of you and it also sounds like that he is not ready to commit to this relationship. I think he wants to go and enjoy his retirement and old age without the hassle but have a girlfriend who will be a 'good little girl' and do everything the way he wants it.
Let him go. Make the most of your time left with your mother, You have the rest of your life in front of you. You can do so much better BELIEVE me!
Will be thinking of you and dropping in on your other questions to see how you are going.
Be strong and stay true to yourself and your daughter.
2006-07-26 01:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by tjrj23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy oh boy this one is hard to answer. The problem is your boy friend is just not worth it. If he can't empathize with you and stay then he is not in love with you. I would let him go and make him pay child support.
But you never said why he wants to go to Michigan. Does he have a good job there? Because Michigan is not exactly Maui. It's not even Southern Cal. It's cold and hot. I think you need to stay with your mother. You need to do this for yourself. The right thing to do is in your heart and following around a guy who is this insensitive is going to end in disaster.
If he has some great reason to go and this is not just to leave you and his daughter then you should stay with your mother and daughter and catch up with him later. But it sounds to me like he is just selfish and not worth the time. You need to look after the child and yourself and be with your mother or you will regret it the rest of your life. Honey take it from me I am a man . Men are a dime a dozen this one too actualy he sounds like he is worthless.
2006-07-26 02:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. You have every right to want to be with your mom at the end of her life. She needs you.
What if you were to stay with your mom and when the time comes, move to Michigan to be with your boyfriend? When two people love each other, separation in times like this should be something you can overcome. You did not say why he is moving to Michigan. Is it for work or does he have family there or does he just want to move there? If it is for anything other than work, only you can decide if he is treating you with the respect and love you need right now. Your family is in my prayers. Be strong and do the right thing by your heart and conscience.
2006-07-26 01:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your bf is pissed about that then you need to make him pay child support and find a new bf. Be there with your mother because she is the only mother u will ever have and in times like this is when family needs each other the most. Wish you the best of luck with your choice but I think you should really be there with your mother.
2006-07-26 01:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by bighossfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with an old geezer anyway!?!
Your mother is 43 years old and his daughter is 35 years old? That would make you approximately 21 to 26 years old and him probably over 54 years old. Jeesh! And, you are unmarried on top of that!
What's the deal!?!
However, I do agree that Michigan is an awesome place to live. 3300 miles of Great Lakes shoreline and beaches. 11000+ inland lakes. Hundreds of islands. Oldest mountains in North America. Four wonderful seasons. I guess that is why 10,100,000+ people live there.
2006-07-27 09:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by AF 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to stay there with your mom you cant abandon the women who gave you life. guys may come and go but familys forever. if your worried that you have a kid and your thinking how am i going to raise her then dont worry iam sure youll find another guy. if this guy is asking you to leave your mother when he needs you the most then hes not the right guy for you. he should known better. dont let him put you in a situtiation where you feel like you have to choose between 2 very important things.
2006-07-26 01:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by jamie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I was going to be a total jerk until I read the whole thing. Listen, if he doesn't leave you now for stupid reasons, he will leave you later for stupid reasons. If he is willing to sacrifice what you two have because you want to be with your family, who knows what else he may try to take away from you. He sounds like a control freak, and you should totally not let him control your life or else you will never have your life again! Good luck with whatever choice you make.
2006-07-26 01:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by insanitymanitee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your boyfriend doesn't understand and/or doesn't care how you feel about leaving your mother in this situation. And this lack of understanding says a lot about his character.
Next time if your daughter gets sick as kids often do, maybe he won't understand why you won't leave your daughter and go shopping with him.
True love is what makes any relationship good. And this guy seems to have such poor understanding of love, that he is probably incapable of loving others.
I suggest that you leave this guy and find another man who will love you.
This guy obviously loves himself more than he loves you.
2006-07-26 01:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if I were you Id talk to him and make him realized how you feel and tell him you will move with him after this is all over, cause otherwise you will regret leaving your mother who is sick and not being with her in her last days.
If he doesnt understand this Im sorry but hes just an @$$hole!
and let him go, you dont want someone like that in your life!
Im sorry to hear about your mother,dont worry about him now though just try to make those last days with her special
2006-07-26 01:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by jimena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't leave family for any body b/c even after they r gone ur family is still there just tell him u r gonna wait till after u c what is goin on with ur mom then u will move up ther with him bold is stronger than water that is y u need to stay with ur mom u only have so much time with her u have the rest of his life to b with him don't do something u will regret hope i helped even just a little bit i am very sry about ur mother :( sry
2006-07-26 01:26:11 · answer #11 · answered by KitKat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋