Let me start out with.. my brother takes off 2 3 times a week.. now just yesterday i was over at his house.. he came down stairs and was laughing his butt off.. said to me that he told his wife that he was just with another woman that morning and she sucked his bird and asked her how did that bitc. taste! When she came down i asked her about it.. she said yeah and started crying.. but then not even 10 minites later she said oh i forgave him.. and then whyle i was there he called his g/f 3 times telling her how much he loves her so i told her.. she threw a fit and then oh baby i forgive you.. Please don't leave me.. oh go out... i know you will be home thursday because i get paid.. here is money go have fun.. he comes home hours later drunk and all coked up and told her about the women he was with.. she just looked at him. and said its ok.... WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH HER!
if my husband did anything like that i would kill him.. i know why he does it.. BECAUSE HE GETS AWAY WITH IT!!
2006-07-25 18:12:09 · 12 answers · asked by ~Mrs.C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now she is not cheating on him.. so that could not be why she is letting him do this.
I think she is just sick in the head.
2006-07-25 18:14:27 · update #1
let me add that he does not hit her.. or anything like that.. she she can't say she is scared.. he tells her all the time.. leave... but she will not leave! so he does what he wants.. and she puts up with it.. i tried talking to her.. and she got brave once and got a pfa but that got dropped in 3 days because she needed him! i know my brother is a big as* hole but i know he acts like this because she lets him
2006-07-25 18:30:41 · update #2
She is co-dependant, nothing will change until she's had enough and has enough self worth to leave.
2006-07-25 18:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by mominshoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....this sounds like a classic case of co-dependency. Your sister-in-law sounds like someone who cannot think for herself and allows herself to be bullied by your brother. Sounds like she needs some serious help.
There are some women in this world who allow this and it's wrong. Some (not all) men have a severe case of trying to be macho....it's stupid and some women let them get away with it.
You should have along talk with your sister-in-law and tell her how silly she looks from an outsiders perspective. As for your brother...I would give him a stern talking to and remind him that he is a disgrace to the male population!!! Don't feel sorry for him because he sounds like a big loser...no respect for his wife, or family.
Good luck.
2006-07-25 18:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take her aside and tell her GIRL what is wrong with you?
And kick your brothers *** .. He is your brother do not let him act like that .. Right now he is doing exactly how you said - LAUGHING about it.. He is partying and having a BLAST saying oh wow look what I can get away with? It's all fun and games until somebody gets hurt .. And his wife isn't saying **** ..
It's up to you to put your brother on check .. for the sake of all women !!!!
2006-07-25 18:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she stays because of her self-esteem and she thinks that she can't get anyone else. He has totally destroyed her. My ex did this to me. Plus mine was abusive in which case it sounds to me like he is doing this to her too. She shouldn't have to put up with this and some women won't but she is because he is very controlling. The only way for her to get out of this is she needs to take the first step.......right out the door....file an epo on him and stay away. plus, it's good to know that you are there for her too. i would say that you being sensitive to her situation makes a lot of difference in her life. it seems she trusts you enough to tell you things, maybe you could talk to her and help her out of that mess.
hope it helps
2006-07-25 18:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has zero self esteem and no respect for herself. She probably grew up without any respect from anyone and in an environment where she learned that this is what relationships look like. encourage her to get some counselling and smack your brother for being an a$$hole.
2006-07-25 18:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is nuts.
Maybe its a self confidence issue. I have no idea.
If that was me, I would have been out of that relationship a long time ago.
What if you suggest that she go get some counselling. Maybe then she will be able to find out why she is with such an abusive, insensitive PRICK.
2006-07-25 18:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Gabriella P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could talk her into getting some help. I can assure you that the girl has no self esteem and could really befit from some consoling and a good friend.
2006-07-25 18:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by Steph D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the life she has chosen, and you're right- it's unhealthy. But she is unhealthy too, and until she gets herself well, this is the best she can do. I feel for the sister. She needs help in the worst way... Peace.
2006-07-25 18:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by funigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is really beaten down. First take her to a good women's shelter program with good counselors and then help her get a good divorce attorney!!
2006-07-25 18:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has low self esteem!! I wish she wasn't in that mess!!! Some people will do anything for an ounce of love!!!!
2006-07-25 18:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋