what would you do if your hubby left you and kids and now has a women pregnant??!?

Question

He want give me a divorce, my kids thinks it's ok!! They can't see why it bothers me they tell me im just jealous! Anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

First off, I would go to the local child support office and get him to support your children that he ungratfully left behind. Yes, to a point it could be jealousy but it feels more like the feeling of "what has she got that i don't and why does he want to have a child with her while i have children with him already" feeling.

My children were uncapable of understanding my position when me and my husband divorced until they got alot older and seen thier daddy for what he really was. It's gonna take time and patience and lots of it too. You are on a long road and my best advice is to care for those children, never slander the fathers name around them no matter how hard it might be, and they will see him for what he is worth the older they get.

As far as him getting that other woman pregnant, she isn't gonna like it too good when you sue him for child support and then she will see what it's like when he has to take his cold hard earned cash and send it to you.......the first woman. You'll see what i am talking about later on down the road.

I wish you lots of luck, things will get better.

Answer 2

What do you mean he won't give you a divorce? He only has an option for so long and then the divorce is granted with or without his signature, especially if he has knocked up another woman, grounds don't get much more clear than that. Your kids need their butts kicked and need some lessons in right and wrong, a few morals wouldn't hurt and some respect for their mother is definitely in order. But you won't get any of that until you stop tolerating getting anything less. Tell them if they think he's so swell they can pack their sh*t and go live with him and the bimbo, their attitudes will change with a quickness once they figure out daddy don't want them around full time! Stop taking crap from these people, the kids learned to disrespect your from their dad so don't take it from him anymore anyway, and get yourself a boy toy to play with. Good luck!

Answer 3

This actually happened/is happening to me!! The baby is due next week, and our divorce won't be final until late November!! What to do? I got the very very best divorce lawyer in this part of the state and he is playing hardball on my behalf. Protect your interests, my dear, and don't let the hubby dictate the terms of the divorce. As for the "jealously" comment -- my husband told me repeatedly before our separation that I was "filled with petty jealousy" and that he and his assistant were just "friends" and collegues. She's the one about to pop with his child. As a WIFE you have a RIGHT and, dare I say, and OBLIGATION to be jealous of your husband's attention and affection. Such attention is rightfully yours -- that's what marriage is supposed to be! That doesn't mean be spiteful or vindictive, rather, just remind yourself that YOU are the right one, the wounded party, and the one with the moral high ground in this situation, and do not let him push you around. Hold your head up high -- YOU have nothing to be ashamed of, he is the guilty party. Don't be embarrased by what HE is doing -- go ahead and spill the beans to friend, acquantance, whoever might bring the subject of him or your family. You'll find more support than you knew was out there. Good luck -- I'm right there with you.

Answer 4

Of course you feel somehow jelous that's just something to expect cause after all you feel like he has changed you for someone else, I went through a similar situation, my bf at the time (we had a long distance relationship, we were continents away!) cheated on me and thought she was pregnant so we broke up,, but afterwards he realized that even though i was thousands of miles away I made him way happier than an easy b*tch! Now here is the thing the more you cry and ask him to stay together he won't do it, move on with your life and try to be happy and you'll see he'll come back to you (and by then you might not even want him back! =D ) if you decide to take him back think twice I took my bf back we are getting married soon but unfortunatly I still think about it and its still a problem between us!
Give it some thought to whatever choice you make, and I really hope it all works out for you
Best of luck!

Answer 5

The first priority would be me. What is best for me. Just cause my hubby has decided not to give me a divorce, does not mean that I cannot be my own person. I would completely separate from him. I would start getting again in the hope that I would find love. I would be happy in my own little way. I would everything possible in this life to take care of my children. I would not be a mean mom as to oppose them to see their dad as long as he does not step into my house, I have no problem. I would live my life as thou my hubby did not exist. To me why worry about a situation I cannot change, I just learn to live with it the best way I know how.

Answer 6

While I do not know how old your children are, they sound like they do not appreciate or respect you. That is wrong and hurtful. Perhaps they learned it from your husband.

If I were you, I would make a life for yourself. You can divorce him, you do not have to wait for him to divorce you. It sounds like he is not coming back and quite frankly, you deserve a chance at happiness in a loving relationship, if that is what you desire.
If you do not work, try getting a job and joining some recreational activities that you find interesting (like art, a book club etc.) get involved with volunteering, things that inspire you. Stay positive and remember your worth! Every day is a new one. :)

Answer 7

Suggestions? Are you kidding? Your marriage is over. I would divorce him!!! Get the divorce and move on with your life. If you need help in dealing with this, go to http://www.MarriageBuilders.com and join their message board. There are alot of people there going through the same thing and alot of good information on how to cope with this. I suggest Plan B!
Take care! and I wish you the best!

Answer 8

Ok first of all what kind of stuff have your kids been learning?? I would ***goes off to dream land* walks into hubby and lovers room and slauders them both**** oops did i say that??? well what i would want to do and what is right to do are two differnt things. the right thing to do would to be go to a lawyer and a counsilor. Give him a divorce but on your terms, make sure you get childsupport and spoucal support its your right. And above all listen to your lawyer and your counsilor.

Answer 9

sorry you're going through this. I did too. Get a good lawyer. Kids are gonna love their dad anyway and don't badmouth him. I just wonder how much time he'll have for them when he has his new baby with his new women. Men suck. Pray alot for guidance, and take him to the cleaners! The do things for yourself with friends, take care, and move on. You deserve better. You will survive. Everything happens for a reason, and it may be awhile, but if you trust God, soon you will see the reason. Remember when God shuts one door, he opens another.

Answer 10

You don't say how old you or your kids are. It sounds like they're probably teenagers or close. Since they think it's so great, tell them to go live with him while you go start a new life somewhere else. Seriously. go some where far away, get on your feet, get yourself a lawyer and divorce the bum.