How far can a married woman flirt before it's cheating?

Answer 1

You seem to be getting lots of sarcastic, judgmental, hypocritical answers to this one, I am sorry. There is not one married woman who hasn't gotten a little giggly when given a compliment by a good looking man. If they say they haven't then they are lying. People flirt a little that is just human nature.

When is it cheating, you know when it is cheating. I wouldn't do anything when my husband is not there that I wouldn't do with him there. I would never do anything that would shame him or myself.

If you are asking this question you need to take a long look at your relationship. If you can't stay faithful get out before you cause horrible pain to a man you have vowed to love and HONOR.

Answer 2

You did right and you know it. Going to another place to dance with the woman would have been really stepping over the line, but you said flirting with her all night made you feel guilty. There's your answer right there. It would have been cheating. If your wife wouldn't have liked it (she wouldn't have), it would have been cheating. You wouldn't like your wife to do the it, would you? Wouldn't you want her to have come home to you rather than go dance with some guy she'd been flirting with? There could be different forms of dancing, too. A fast dance with no body contact other than the hands is one thing, but a slow, embracing dance definitely carries sexual connotations. You were definitely not overreacting, and none of us have any guarantee that even if we may believe we wouldn't let it go "any further than that" some situation might come up we hadn't expected that would push us closer to the point of no return, etc. Too bad more wives don't have husbands like you. What you did last night was an example of true masculinity, the kind that endures to the end.

Answer 3

Cheating is a very subjective thing. You should really answer this for yourself.

Most people believe that the moment you even have feelings of infidelity, you have already commited adultery in your heart.


More realistically, you should think about the level of flirting you'd be comfortable with your husband making. Think about it from his point of view... it's incredibly selfish and stupid to not consider the emotional impact it would have on your husband. If you have no problem with him joking around with women during happy hour, as long as he comes home to you at the end of the day, looks, and doesn't touch, that should be the level you preserve for yourself.


I have no problem with my fiance flirting if it's all in good fun. I flirt sometimes as well. Not in a way that I would ever develop feelings and act on them, but rather in a funny "bonding" type of way. It's a little refreshing, since, being in a long-term relationship, you tend to flirt less. It's mostly a self-assuring, flattering kind of thing.

Don't put yourself in any situations with those men, though, that you would regret or feel you can't control yourself. The easiest way to not cheat is to stay away altogether.

Cheating is NEVER worth it.

Answer 4

I think desert rat answered it best. Since there is a sparsity of info in your question it is hard to answer without being vague. what is the relationship w/ hubby , what's on the woman's mind is this a test before crossing the line or is the woman a devoted wife and just trying to put boundries on her own flirtatious personality? What's considered cheating? For that matter what's considered flirting?

Answer 5

If you start saying stuff like "well if I wasn't married I'd _____" (fill in the blank with sleep with you, be your girlfriend, etc.) and you actually mean it, you are going to far. Flirting is fine, as long as you aren't doing it to see if that person will take the next step and make a move (because you sort of want them to). If you are just flirting for fun, and have no intention of doing anything with the person, and aren't talking dirty with the person telling them what you want to do to them, then I think you are ok. Something tells me that if you are questioning it, you might have taken it too far, or at least be tempted to.

Answer 6

I believe that it depends on the people in the relationship and their beliefs. As long as communication is open between the partners and both people agree where the "line" is drawn - that should be all that matters. To some people, kissing would be considered cheating...to other people, sex might not even be considered cheating as long as the spouse knows about it. It all depends! Some people's religion dictates how far someone could go, too.

Answer 7

Flirting is cheating. When a person who is in a relationship flirts with another person they are totally disrespecting their mate and their relationship. I find it very sad that people choose to play games with the emotions of others.

Answer 8

A MARRIED WOMAN SHOULDNT BE FLIRTING AT ALL. unless her spouse consents. if not and you have touched in any way it is considered cheating by most mens standards. think about this would you like him flirting with another woman? what about a lunch date even if it was casual? (or business) with another woman? so if you asked i think you all ready know the answer you are looking for

Answer 9

Smiling and saying hi is enough if the guy is the first one to flirt. But NO MORE. You can let the guys flirt you if you need attention from other guys but don't flirt back and don't start it. Otherwise it's too far already.

Answer 10

hmmmm different people think different things are cheating.....but i would say if there doing anything sexual like kissing,rubbing up against each other and of course having sex then its diffinitely cheating....although of course for women they get emotionally attached to people so if there too close with each other that sould be construed as cheating also....so really it just depends on what the womans doing(flirting wise)how she does it.