when i accepted my bf, i dont know that he still have another one. i thought they were already separated. one time, the girl used his cellphone to text me. i was very angry. he told me that the girl went to their home without his knowledge. he texted the girl later (in my presence) and told her not to disturb US alone because it is me that he loves and not the other one. he now propose secret marriage to me. it is secret becuase my parents might object. im still studying for my doctorate degree. i know he do loves me but im afraid to accept his proposal thinking that he may be unfaithful to me in the future. what should i do?
2006-07-25 16:55:21 · 9 answers · asked by ladyheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well Lady Heart you are about to get a Doctorates in Love from the Cave Man. This game your man is playing on you. I have been there and I have done that. You would have to be a fool to accept this guys propsal. Of course he is going to play on you. It is not a matter of "if". It is a matter of "when". Let me let you in on a little secret. He is already playing on you. A secret proposal is a bunch of crap. The mere fact that you have to hide from your parents alone should be sending you a BIG warning signal. DON'T DO IT!!!! You are smarter than that. The first thing you have to do is be able to separate sex from love. I don't know why women always fall for this. Just because he tells you he loves you during or after you have had sex, doesn't mean he loves you. Actions speak louder than words and his actions are saying that he does not love you. I know this may be a hard pill to swallow but it is a fact. The reason your parents WILL object is because they know you will be making the biggest mistake of your life. You deserve better than this. I know it and you do to. Find you some one who is going to treat you with dignity and respect and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I will be praying for you. Peace and God bless.
2006-07-25 17:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You really need to make sure what this guy is all about before marrying him. He does not sound as though he is on the up and up. Your parents may have very valid reasons for not wanting you to marry this man. I would tell him that your just not ready to get married yet. I've been in a similar situation, he even told the girl that he loved me and all that but the truth was he was still with her behind my back. Be careful.
2006-07-25 17:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen 2 ur parents..wether u believe it or not they're right and will always b there 4 u...A marriage without a parent's approval isnt right....
If he cheats it's time 4 u 2 move on..cuz there r guys out there better than him..he's not d only guy left on earth....finish skool cuz those problems might mess ur life up 4 ever.....
talk 2 mom or dad!! and take it slow with d relationship....
2006-07-25 17:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by ♫ I kno' u see it!♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this question. How did she get into his house without his knowledge? Did he file a police report? Probably not. How do you know he text'd her? It could have been anyone and designed for your benefit. There are too many open-ended question marks. Get those questions answered before you make a decision that will alter the course of your life forever.
2006-07-25 17:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grammar indicates that you are less educated than you say, and your question indicates that you are not as mature as you indicate by association. "Secret marriage"?? I don't think either of you are ready for that. Maybe you should try an engagement period first.
2006-07-25 17:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the 1st ingredient on my record is God and family individuals (a tie) the 2d ingredient on my record is Johnny funds and united states music many times i in my view do no longer love my friends in any respect. I mean, mashed potatoes are larger up on my "issues i like record" than my friends :)
2016-11-03 00:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your not completely with him until the wedding. i'd take his proposal and see what happens later on! if it keeps happening... then call off the engagement.
2006-07-25 16:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by curlie-ba-twirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are on here asking total strangers then you already know the answer in your heart, if you have a doubt then leave him
2006-07-25 17:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have doubts then don't go through with it, but if you really love him then go for it
2006-07-25 17:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by advice queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋