which were my grandparents led to believe that my birthmother was really my sister? I didnt find that out until later my childhood. My birthmother took off after I turned 3 and I didnt see or her from her until I am 16 birthday and then she wanted to take over as mom after my grandmother had passed the year before. I still have not really forgave my birthmother for giving me to my grandparents for $100. Am I in the wrong here? Should I just let go of everything that she did and try to start a realtionship with her? Or should I continue to ignore her? I just feel that a mother that gives her child up for money is selfish and underserving of love. I think I am almost punishing her because my grandmother died and thats who I loved and called Mom for 15 years of my life.
2006-07-25 16:35:23 · 5 answers · asked by stacyda20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear one -
All that matters- and is important right now - is -----
How YOU feel - about what your grandparents did for you, and your birth mother. . . other people here at Yahoo Answers may not really understand, or be very helpful. . .
From the little bit that you have written, it is hard to know just what to say.
Trust what YOU feel - not what anyone else thinks or tells you that THEY think you should feel . . .
Do what YOU think is best for yourself - not what someone else may think . . .
You have survived some very painful, hurtful things in your young life, and it sounds as if you are thinking very clearly . . . do not be hard on yourself for whatever you think and feel. You've lost your 'mom' more than once - that is a very difficult situation for someone, even in the best of circumstances.
I am sorry that you are having such difficulties, and that you have lost the 'mother' that you loved, in your grandmother.
Maybe someday your birthmother WILL show you that she can be trusted - to not abandon or reject you, again. I certainly hope that this becomes your reality in the near future.
Try to find and nurture a sunny spot in your life - each day is a new beginning, and another opportunity to do things differently. I wish for you - love and peace in the days ahead - because perhaps the most painful events of your life are now behind you.
2006-07-25 16:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1st you are very angry, & have a right to be. Your birth mother let you down, & your Grandmother passed away at a time you need a caring mother in your life. You are angry but that's not going to help you today. You are also right about how you feel about your Grandmother as your known mother. However, your birth mother is the woman who gave birth to you, & you can't change that. She waited a long time to do it but she may be ready to step up to her responsibilities now. A wise man once said that the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour. Your birth mother's past behaviour says that she has no business being a mother of any child, but you are old enough now that you can make some of your own decisions. If you give her a chance to build a new past with you, there is a chance that she could step in and take a beneficial role in your life. But replace the mother you lost this late in time? I doubt it.
2006-07-26 00:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should sit down and talk to your mother about your feelings. I'm sure that your mother had more reasons than money to give you away. Maybe she could not provide a good life for you at that time in her life. A mother loves her child and tries to do what is best for them. I understand that you are hurt, but ask your mother for the answers that you want. Good luck.
2006-07-25 23:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to have a relationship with her...there is no need to hold on to what you are feeling. She obviously gave you to your grandparents for a reason...start a NEW! and fresh relationship with her and see how things go...You are being selfish right now she is in your life right now so take advantage of the opportunity. Who knows...you might become the best of friends...GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING!
2006-07-25 23:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by chocolate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
never forget the love your grand-parents showed and tought you and in life you only have one birth mother so let the past go find out what you need to know from your mother and see were it goes
2006-07-25 23:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by wilco254 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋