wish i could tell u his user id so u could c for urself,but i can't. very hurt
2006-07-25 16:29:52 · 18 answers · asked by Blanca P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is not secretive about it and doesn't mind you reading all the messages then it's probably fine. If he has nothing to hide from you it's all good. Just check it out periodically. (If you have a problem with it though he should respect that and quit doing it.)
If you already know the login details of his account ( almost always the user name is his email address), then monitor it yourself. If you don't have the login info then find a way to get it so you can.
If you have access to his email all you have to do is go to Myspace and say you lost your password, then they will resend the password to his email address. After you have that, make sure you totally delete the email from Myspace saying you requested the lost password or he'll know you asked for it if he's sees it in his email inbox.
Some might say it's not cool to be that sneaky, but I believe in covering your butt. Besides, maybe you trust him, but not the chicks that message him. I trust my man but I don't trust some of those Myspace ho's at all. :)
And no, I don't think you are being insecure. He's your husband. He's a married man.
Good luck! :)
2006-07-25 16:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by kierr31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't really answer your question directly, so I will tell you about something stupid I did. When we first got our computer I was strictly downloading music, then when I got bored of that I was being an a$$ in chatrooms and then I started talking to other girls online. I figured my wife didn't know enough to check (which was very dumb on my part), long story short we had 4 or 5 fights about it and I agreed not to do it again, but haven't since in like Sept of last year. Confront him and try and have a conversation about it, definitely avoid a fight if possible and just try and get to the bottom of why he does it and whatever else you are wondering. I hope this helps.
2006-07-25 23:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by tre_loc_dogg2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would venture to say you need to listen to that gut feeling that you are having about your husband talking to girls in myspace.
I try to tell women that the initial gut feeling is usually correct.
As for his ID on myspace, it is usually the same one he uses for yahoo, so have you tried that? I have noticed that unless the guy has something to hide then most of his ID's are gonna be the same on any website he goes to.
If you are having a problem with trust when he is on myspace then what I would suggest is that you come right out and ask him to let you see his site and to read the comments that are there.
If he has nothing to hide then he should log in and show it all to you.
2006-07-25 23:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chatting with girls? are you sure? Then, he is cheating. No ifs - ands - or buts about it. He finds happiness there then what does that mean? He finds something that is titillating - that he does not find in you - so, there is a problem that is deep rooted than just chat in myspace.
He is attracted to very young girls you think?. That is the first sign of a warning to you about something you did not know all along. Do not jump to conclusions but Be wary.
2006-07-25 23:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be insecure...maybe your not. Either way in a relationship, if someone is doing something that makes their partner uncomfortable, they should respect and love them enough to stop.
If asking him to stop doesn't work for you, turn the tables...sometimes they have to experience the same feeling you are, in order to make sense out of why it is bothering you...sometimes people think certain behaviors are no big deal until someone else shows them how it really feels.
2006-07-25 23:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by peskygnats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married, he has no right to be chatting with girls at all.
So he is doing this in private? See if you can find out from one
of his" friends"on his page. Search his name and get his page,
or have somebody do it for you, email some of the girls, and
ask, but be prepared for the answer you'll get. Good luck !!!!!
2006-07-26 01:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You have every right to feel like you do.
He has no business chating to females on there, regardless of how innocent it may be. The Bible say to avoid the apprearance of evil, and so if that looks wrong to you than he need not be doing it. Also that is just an open door for the enemy to bardge in and destroy your marriage.
Confront him, talk to him.
2006-07-25 23:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by addicted2stamping 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone, he obviously does not respect you. I went through this just a few months ago and my man was calling the girl and even sent her flowers. If he does not stop leave him alone and walk away and find someone who can respect you and love you and you only. Every woman deserves that.
2006-07-26 00:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by bebe1028 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It starts out as innocent chatting at first -maybe- then it leads to places he has no business going. Girl, put a stop to that sh*t right now if you want to save your marriage!
2006-07-25 23:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by lost_carolina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not he shouldnt be doing that at all that is a form of cheating it starts like that then what happens if u and him get into a fight who is he gonna turn to one the girls who really know him come on give me a break stop it before it gets to that point
2006-07-25 23:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by Tina d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋