me and my husban paly and say we are going to have one, but I asked him if he would really want one ...and he said," NO I'm just playing with you but if your up to it I wouldent mind" but I think that would ruin are marrige...but then other people say "be a Lady in public and a hore in bed" witch I've live by utill now...women dont turn me on but would it be wrong to do it and just see her as a sex toy as a hore we brought to please us...I know it sounds rude but I mean it in the best way lol.
and of course we wouldent just bring anyone! anyway do you think this could change our marrige for the worst?
2006-07-25 15:56:36 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes i think it would ruin your marraige
2006-07-25 15:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off...I can't think of too many men who have not at least had thoughts of having sex with 2 women. I don't know how old you and your man are, you need (if yall are seriously considering REALLY doing this) to be very careful! Once you have done it, you can't undo it! I know people who swing and are fine with it, but you should REALLY know in your hearts that you'd be OK with another person touching(among other things) the person you love. I have also seen these situations backfire BADLY!!! Sometimes the jealousy does not come until you actually see it happening!!!REMEMBER.. thinking, talking playfully about it is VERY different from actually doing it!!! Me personally, My man is ALL Mine and I can't stand the thought of another woman touching him in a sexual way! He aiso feels the same about me! I think 2 people who really Love each other don't need help to have a very intimate relationship!!! Think of some fun ways to spice up the relationship you already have and you won't have regrets or guilt later! You'll be just fine without that threesome!!!!!!
2006-07-25 16:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by Bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a vast general I think relationships that start to get to far outside the box end up breaking apart, or in the least you end up being less close.
A friend of mine last year ended up hooking up with a married couple. After a while he started seeing the girl on the side. They now live together and the original man and wife are no longer together.
If you play with fire you often get burnt. I wouldn't chance it unless you really feel called to do so. Doing so to please your husband would in the end not be helpful to anyone.
2006-07-25 16:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How worse could it get? My personal opinion is that you or he or both of you want to accuse the other of liking someone else better than you. Trouble is, neither of you want to be the one to cheat, so you came up with this little gem of mutual cheating that hurts nobody, (or at least you think that now).
Pretend you and he just it with a third person, guy or girl.
What exactly would you feel if he liked it? What if he didn't?
2006-07-25 16:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by T_C_FLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES AND YES... A marraige is a man and a women brought together by GOD. Not bring your neighbor, invite the UPS guy. It's cheating. It's adultry. nayway you look at it it's wrong..If you play you will pay. Probably by losing your marriage altogether. Stick with thte fantasises
2006-07-25 16:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by what do you think? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it's something you should do. First of all, you'll both be breaking one of the big 10, second how would you feel if your husband said the women was better in bed than you are and left you for her?
2006-07-25 15:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sniggly_Snew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it would not be wrong as long as you know in your heart that you have a strong marriage. It can actually be a very fun and helpful thing to do. As long as you two are completely committed to each other than no it is not wrong. Go for it!
2006-07-25 15:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds sexy right now but it's like a Tattoo in your mind and as you get older and your love fo your partner get's stronger, You are going to question what you did. My thoughts are to just keep it as a fantasy. I think it will hurt you in the long run.
2006-07-25 16:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by laa_dee_fukin_daa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the two of you and how your feelings are for one another if they are strong then nothing could get between the two of you but if there not then it could ruin everything but if you were to have one you should not do it that often then if the third person starts to develop feelings it could be an all out disaster
2006-07-25 16:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by rcrenzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
defiently yes, your husband is just leaving this one up to you because he wants to make sure you are ready for this. You know he is not going to have a problem with it. But yes, it is a known fact that it does ruin marriages and alot of people regret doing it. So please think twice about sharing your man with someone else.
2006-07-25 16:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by luvinmjc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you BOTH want it definitely do it. 2 men/1 woman in bed is the best combination. i have tried it and it was mind blowing. it helps if the men are bi sexual. then it really sizzles. for a woman to have a man either side is amazing. once you have tried it you will want it more and more and will probably want 3 men
2006-07-25 16:47:53 · answer #11 · answered by rkum123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋