All my life I have been around blacks. I have been in contact with whites when I go downtown or go to a basketball or something like that. But I have never been friends with them or went to school with them or anything. So I am a litle nervous about living with one. Does anyone have any advice, something that could make this time a little less nerve wrecking.
2006-07-25 15:39:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
As a white girl who lived successfully with black girls, it's not bad. They will probably be very curious about you and black culture, just be open to a lot of weird questions. And feel free to ask weird questions. One of my roommates could not figure out how white girls got their hair into a ponytail. And I had no idea black people don't wash their hair all the time like I do.
Most (I can't say all), but most white people really are accepting of blacks, and a lot of the time it's just a matter of getting to know someone of another race.
2006-07-25 15:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by erin7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you just told us. You have not had much experience dealing with whites and you know that you will have differences, but you would prefer to learn about each other rather than take the low road and be ignorant/racist.
Maybe she has never been around blacks or other races. Maybe both of you have grown up with racial generalizations that aren't true. This could be a great learning experience for both of you if you two can sit down and talk without prejudice and judgements.
2006-07-25 23:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by curiouschick18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been best friends with a white girl before :)
There is not going to be racial tension unless you let it sweetie, get rid of yours first because believe it or not there is some in you it seems like...or it could just be insecurity?? If so let it go. You can learn from this experience and it will most definitely open your mind a bit more if you let it. Hope it works out.
2006-07-26 05:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by uglyvanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, don't create tension where there doesn't need to be tension. Just on the basis of your question you have already come to the conclusion there is probably going to be a problem. Just relax, and understand that most white people are very accepting of black people....prejudice is for losers. Just be prepared to be caught off guard at least once. White people are always politically correct when there is someone of another race around, but put us alone and we probably will say something crude, sad but true.
2006-07-25 22:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just be yourself. I am a white girl who has had Arabic and black roommates. We were DEFINITELY different, and when we got to know each other better, we really laughed about it. We went out together to her kind of clubs, and my kind of bars. My black roommate taught me ALL about hair extensions and took me to the hairdresser with her when she got her braids (didn't mention that this takes literally HOURS). That's just one example, but I learned a lot from her, and then when I met other Blacks, I felt much more comfortable. This could be a great experience for you.
However, if she's a snotty *****, cut her loose!
2006-07-25 22:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Becca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My freshman year in college I lived with three other white roommates. It's important to go in and put your foot down and let them know what you expect as far as cleanliness and respecting each others space. I didn't really have that big of a problem. You get used to being around them after a while.
2006-07-25 22:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by sicem09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you enter that room with obnoxious ideas on, sort of, racism? The girls 're girls, white or black. Don't nurture that complex of yours any more. White could be as humane as any of from the colored skins..... Depends on individuals then, for making friends and giving cool time. Befriend her, but casting aside your fears, prejudices and discriminatory leanings. It will come out fine at the end of the day.
2006-07-25 23:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely your white roommate is asking her friends the same question!
as long as it's just the 2 of you, you'll get along as well or bad as any other people: if it's not race, it's money, popularity or something else; no 2 people are alike
it's up to you two to make the most out of it and learn about your slightly different cultures - it will be fun
2006-07-25 22:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by clara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the totally opposite of you. I've been around white and black ppl my entire life. My freshman yr of college I lived in a dorm room w/ three white girls. My advice is to be yourself. They are just ppl. Make sure to set boundaries and voice your concerns and everything should be ok.
2006-07-27 14:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your future roommate are in for a great experience. The real learning at college takes place outside of the classroom and this sounds like a great opportunity for you.
Everyone is nervous about their first college roommate; even if they are of the same race - so you aren't alone there.
Have fun and good luck!
2006-07-25 23:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋