Why is it that when a wife wants to stay home and not work she is considered?

Question

lazy but a man isn't considered lazy and inadeqate for not wanting to provide for his wife? It is a man's job to provide for his wife, no matter what anyone says. It might not be the 1950's, but then again what was wrong with the 1950's? Families stayed together, crime was low, morals were better, etc. A non working wife is not lazy, it is the husband that insists on his wife working because he can't make a living, that is lazy.

When the wife isn't working, you only need one car, daycare isn't necessary, you don't have to buy your kids everything and spoil them so they keep asking for more, you don't have to eat out everyday. Working couples seem to spend a lot of money on unnecessary items and buy everything for their kids outa guilt.

Answer 1

I agree onehundred percent. I am a SAHM and alot of ppl think I am lazy because I dont work at a "paying" job, but believe I do work.
I guess they think the laundry,dishes and clothes all clean themselves.
And someone must have found that ever elusive self cleaning home...otherwise these men need to shut the fuuck up.
A real man can make enug money to support his family and have a wife that can stay home and look after her kids, not some lazy daycare worker.
And you dont need to incomes to survive, my hubby and I are buying our second home and we are both under 30!
This house cost well over 450,000 and we did on ONE income.

Answer 2

Marriage is a partnership. Both parties should be willing to do whatever is necessary for their relationship and family. Parents who stay home and raise children work even harder than the ones that go to work 9-5.

If a man does not work and does not have the means to support his family then I agree, he IS lazy. I strongly disagree with your statement that a man who may not have skills or intelligence to support a family on one salary is lazy. Perhaps you come from a family where that was the case. More power to you for that. Unfortunately, with the cost of living today, that is not always possible.

I agree that it is better for the family to have the woman home but that is just not always possible. Because this is not 1950 anymore, I find it hard to believe that the women do not have some idea of the earning potential of the men they are marrying.

Answer 3

First I know a lot of women who stay home and I don't think any of them are lazy they are just more fortunate. You are right this isn't the 50's. The cost of living is way higher and wages aren't keeping up so more and more men are having to depend on their wives to work just to be able to make ends meet. It isn't because they are lazy and don't want to work it is because it is what the economy demands. Families where the wife stays home are often either very wealthy or they do without a lot of what we take for granted with two incomes. Marriage is suppose to be 50/50 and I don't see anything wrong with a man asking his wife for help if he can't do it on his own. I stay at home and babysit from here to get extra money but if my husband asked me to go back to work I would and I wouldn't think it was because he was lazy and not wanting to support his family but because that is what have to do.

Answer 4

Maybe its because in most cases both spouses work now days. I would not want to be at home and not work. I love my job and it gives me a great sense of purpose in life. Other people feel the same way about their job as an at home wife. However, don't even think about giving us the old tale that an at home wife is also working - just at the house. Those of us who have worked and raised children at the same time know that there is no comparison to the amount of stress and sleepless nights a working mother goes through.

Answer 5

I SO agree with you. Things are changing for the worse now days. I believe that a man should be the breadwinner and take care of his family. That's the way it's always been. Why is it different now? I am a stay-at-home mom and I can tell you just because you aren't working for money doesn't mean you aren't holding a full time job. Taking care of the kids and the house is much harder IMO.

Answer 6

Those days ended a long time ago. It takes 2 incomes just to keep the power on. However paying for daycare might outweigh other possibities. Also depends on how you were raised. My mother never worked outside the home, but yet she worked her *** off to take care of us, there were 8 of us. My dad always came home to a warm meal. The family should take care of each other, and that might mean one stays home and takes care of kids, or both work and pay for child care, or whatever... it is whatever is best for the family in each situation.

Answer 7

The man is the head of the house???? Where???????????

Women turned this society upside down. Most men did not want their wives to work in the 60's and 70's. They were called every name in the book, and many were cast out into the street for not accepting their wives as equals in the workplace. They still are.

So, it takes a lot of nerve to trash men out for having been taught that women are going to work outside the home.

If a husband and wife agree that she will stay in the home, and he will go forth to work, and he provides for the family, and the wife makes sure to live within his earnings, then that is their business.

But after 40 years of threats and divorces for men to accept women working outside the home, Don't bother to blame men for the result.

I call this "Pick and choose equality." Equality when you feel like it, when you decide you want to stop work, then back to the traditional values, and call your husband lazy. hang it up. Pick and Choose doesn't work.

Answer 8

its lazy on both part if they are healthy where is it written a man has to support a wife are vice verse back in the 50 womens stayed home cook and clean raise kids now a day things are more expensive so it takes 2 to live a comfortable decent life so if one is not willing the family is in a bind. and i would never agree to a woman are man to stay home if they are able body if she are he choose not to work you dont have i would not support the other one

Answer 9

I agree with you. The man is the head of the household and should be expected to provide. Don't say it takes two incomes to survive in our society. Too many couples are trying to start out where their parents are after 25-30 years. You don't need a Beemer, Harley, bass boat and eat out 3-4 times a week to survive!

Answer 10

I agree 100%...that is the way it should b...my wife stays at home and takes care of the home and kids and do,es a dang good job ....I hold her very high with respect....i work and supply her and the kids needs...we have been married 16 yrs and we have done just great....she is far from being lazy.