Are people born gay?

Question

A friend recently came out and announced his gayness to me and my friends. This has caused quite a controversy among all of us. Are people born gay or does something in life make them that way?

Answer 1

Ok... I believe an uncommon but logical belief are you ready??

SOME people may be born gay, like SOME people are born blind. This is a type of birth defect (I dont say that in disrespect but something from birth that makes someone "abnormal")

SOME people can become gay from life circumstances like some people can become blind by circumstances.

SOME people can become gay for emotional reasons, in the same way an emotional trauma may sometimes cause a person blindness.

SOME gays and blind people can be healed, some cannot be healed. But both should strive to live as normally as possible and should have the support of others around them to do so.

Answer 2

Yes, they are in fact, born gay. To say otherwise is just someone making an ill informed prejudiced statement. I am gay, and knew that I had "feelings" for the same sex since I was 6. They weren't sexual at that time, obviously, but I "liked" boys. I was raised like any other "normal" child...had both parents, never abused mentally, physically, or sexually. I have a brother, I am not spoiled, was raised to be Christian, I do not pass judgement on anyone and I always have the best intentions in anything I do.

After reading that, now ask yourself, Why would someone want to make a so called choice that will cause them a lot of grief? It is 2006 and society has come a long way, but there are still a lot of hateful people out there that will preach to you and tell you it's a sin and the bible condemns it and you are going to hell bla bla bla. People only say this though so they can feel better about their lives, and are most likely jealous of an "openly gay" person because they are being true to themselves and living their life to be happy.

Best advice I can give you is please be supportive of your friend. If him being gay causes you to drift away or not be his friend anymore, he was never your friend in the first place. He is no different than he was last week, he is still the same person. Only difference now is you know he is gay, but like I said, he was gay last week, you just didn't know it. Trust me, it's a difficult life, but I'm happy with who I am and have started the same process. The two people who know I'm gay have been super supportive and it has helped a lot, so please do the same for him, if he is truely your friend it will not matter.

Answer 3

Don't pay attention to the ignorant answers you've gotten so far. Being gay is not a choice one makes. It is not due to something that happens later in life. Because of social prejudice such as exhibited in the answers you've received, some people try to live a straight life, get married, and even have children. But in the end, most of them find they are miserable and deeply depressed because they are not being true to themselves. Many gay adolescents commit suicide because of the social pressure and prejudice to be straight.

The exact cause of being gay is not known; but then, neither is the cause of being straight known. Usually, people who are gay begin to notice as they edge toward puberty and hints of early sexuality emerge in consciousness.

There have been gay people in all cultures and in all times throughout history. Gay people have made contributions to all areas of human endeavor. There are many animals that exhibit traits that would be labeled gay. These facts should tell you something -- that gayness is a part of the goodness of nature. The bigots who are so arrogant to condemn God's creation need to go back and learn the REAL lesson the Bible teaches -- love and compassion; judge not lest ye be judged.

If God exists and God created everything, then God created gay people. The hate and lack of understanding shown by those who have answered thus far is mind-boggling. I wonder if these people made it out of grade school.

Do these dunces even bother to study other religions and other cultures, or are they so docile they laming accept what was taught to them without any question? Have they ever traveled outside of the city they were born in? What if one of these answer-givers was born in a non-Christian country, like say China. Would they bother to think for themselves and say, "Oh, my country and my culture and my religion -- they are all wrong. Let me read the Bible and believe in it like so many Americans do?"

Sorry for the rant. I think it is a good thing trying to understand your friend's situation. I would say, don't worry about what causes him to be gay. He's still the same person he was before he shared with you, and now he has entrusted you with even more heartfelt emotion. I hope you will let him know in a big, big way that he is still your friend, and support him when he encounters the kind of prejudice you see here.

Answer 4

I am shocked at all the people who responded with a "No, people are not born gay."

Quite the opposite. Yes, people are born gay.

I am not gay, but I have some gay male friends and all of them have said that they knew they were gay since childhood. All of them.

The mere fact that we don't come out of the womb with the urge to sleep with a man or a woman has nothing to do with attraction and hormones as you get older. That is perhaps, one of the more frighteningly, ignorant comments I've heard.

What this person is basically saying, is, that men learn through some social norm to be attracted to women? I don't think so.

Its more likely that there is a real desire and urge that is felt when a heterosexual male is around a woman he is attracted to. That same, 'very real' desire, is in gay men and women when they see someone of the same sex they are attracted to.

If something turns you on, it is a physiological and not a learned behavior. Read a scientific or medical text book people.

Answer 5

Human sexuality is discovered at start, simply as it's with different animals. In truth, bisexual and gay conduct has been documented in additional than 450 animal species global. The ebook Biological Exuberance is a satisfactory compilation of this study. There are simply as many gays and lesbians now as there ever had been earlier than -- approximately 10% of the total populace. This is correct far and wide on the planet. The best change is how open individuals are capable to be approximately their sexuality. Needless to mention, in international locations in which homosexuality is unlawful, homosexual tradition is pushed underground.

Answer 6

Studies have shown that there is a distinct genealogical difference that humans are born with that determine the person's sexuality preference.

On the other hand, other studies have shown that children who were sexually abused by a same-sex adult have a higher risk of being gay than those who weren't. Additionally, recently news came out that a male child with an older brother has a higher chance of being homosexual than a male who is the oldest of his siblings.

Answer 7

Anyone that says they werent born that way god wouldnt have done that.. well guess what.. BRAIN CHEMISTRY, HORMONES do you know what they are? People can be born gay THAT IS A PROVEN FACT! not everyone is, but some people are!

What was god doing when he made a Hemafrodite? Why did god create a person with both male and female anatomy? Huh huh? It has nothing to do with GOD you idiots, it has to do with DNA, genes, brain chemistry and hormones.. Some boys have more female hormones then others, causing them to have homosexual feelings! PEOPLE CAN be born gay!

Answer 8

I believe that people are gay based on the surroundings that they grow up in. For example, if you are taught to be sensitive and hang around a lot of caring girls, you might have a tendency to be more feminine and that might "spring" your gayness. I don't think it's a choice either, I think it's peoples' mindsets in their atmosphere. Because honestly, like someone said above me, why would you choose to be gay? You would be ridiculed and criticised constantly and who really wants that?

Answer 9

I think some are. A friend of mine used to have dreams about her female teachers. She hated the the dreams and herself for having them. She felt this way when she was still very young. She was not influenced by any gay people around where I lived. Also, she always acted very masculine. She did not want to feel the way she did.

Answer 10

For those of you who say that people aren't born gay... how do you explain a seven year old boy who loves ballet and is "flirty" with boys. This is true of a young boy that I know. It's a chemical imbalance, because you are supposed to be naturally attracted to the opposite sex and when you're attracted to the same sex, you are. Don't discriminate. It's just like being prejudice.