My husband has foreign bank account under his name, he would not tell me how much he has?

Question

When i ask my husband about his forigen account, he tells me non of my business what he has, or what he got from his fahter.
when i try to talk to him about that, he shut me off. He make me feels like he does not trust me. We have been married for over 3 years going on four. when i buy someting in here he tell me we need to save money for emergency. When he save money he send most of the money back home. i am really frustrated, not sure what should i say at this time or do. My husband want to know everything about me. He tells me how come i don't want anything from my family ex my father has store in back home. he want to know if i am going to get part of that. when i tell him, i don't want it, it is for my brother. It does not matter what i say my husband talk about divorce. My mom does not believe in Divorce and he takes advantage of that.

Answer 1

You need to get to the bottom of this before it goes any farther. Honesty is everything in a relationship. Its obivious he is hiding something from you. Confront him now!!! What else is he not telling you..

Good luck

Answer 2

You are talking about several different things at the same time.

First, money or accounts he had before he met you (esp. money he got from family or inheritance) should be of no concern of yours. If he wants to share that with you he can, if he doesn't let it go. It just makes you look money-hungry and he will close up even more.

Secondly, you should save in a separate account and if you feel the finances are not free in your household then adjust to suit.

Thridly, if you got married, that means you are an adult and capable of making decision for yourself (we would hope) so it does not matter what anyone else thing about divorce etc. Our parents time was a different one, we experience so much more stress. So stop this nonesense talk about yuh mom dont agree with divorce

Finally, your family/father's distribution of his wealth is not your husband business.

Answer 3

You need to open your own bank account (SECRET account) right away. It is not fair he is not being open with you. If he were being nice about it it would be different, but he is being too evasive. You need to have a stash of your own sister. If he says this money is from his father...it would behoove you to know how much his father gave him only because if he had that before the marriage, it is his entirely. However if he is adding money to it, you are entitled to half that money( the money he has added) since you are married.( I am telling you this because in a divorce your assets gained during the marriage are split, unless one had something before the marriage and still has it. But anything aquired during the marriage is up for grabs by both.) Protect yourself .

Answer 4

This is why women should always keep a stash.

oh get over what your mother believes, she'll get over it. (maybe) If you are not happy and your husband is not putting you first. Drop him! or at least tell him. And if he is taking advantage of the fact that you/ your family doesn't believe in divorce. Show him and Drop him. Start over. Reset. Redo. Undo. Get Rid of him. OMG what if he is sending money to his wife in Italy!!!

Girl get to investigating. Find out. Save up. And Leave.

Answer 5

Call his bluff, tell him your thinking about getting a divorce and half or more will come out in the divorce, tell him even tho your mom doesn't believe in divorce your thinking about it any way, based on trust ! I think marriage should open and honest, not secrets. Good Luck !

Answer 6

Then you should work something out with your husband. Maybe a separate account. If he choose to divorce, you might be left with nothing, those money he send home is hard to trace back.

Answer 7

Be careful! Make sure someone around you knows of the situation. Someone exhibiting the behavior you say your husband is, could easily turn violent. Ask your Mother if she would rather have you here and divorced, or have to bury you.

Answer 8

Seeing as you're married, yes it is your business. Your finances are shared because you're married. I'd start saving my money in my own secret account for when I got divorced if I were you.

Answer 9

Get out of the relationship.
Marriage is based on honesty and respect.
You are getting neither.
You are worth more than that!
Get Out And Find Someone That Loves You.
Life is too short to live like that, be happy.

Answer 10

He does not trust you, with out trust there is not much of a marriage. He has a big problem. I would be so hurt if I were in your shoes. He is not behaving like a loving husband.