lets say your wife is searching for past friends from school. one of those friends contacts her. turns out hes an ex of hers in high school and he has never gotten over her. and now writes her and tries to talk to her. tells her how fun it would be to make kids. and he wont tell HIS wife about talking to my wife. Now keep in mind. i trust my wife. but now this guy writes stupid stuff like "You left your panties at my house" he knows full well id read it. he's trying to cause problims between me and my wife. NOW...heres the problim. i told my wife i want contact with this idiot to stop. but she says "He's just an old boyfriend. and all she wants is a friendship. (I beleive her. she wont lie about it) but she doesnt SEE what this idiot is reall up too. she thinks its just dumb of me to get pissed off. she thinks now that i dont trust her. ive told this guy off. and he still prosists. what would you do?
2006-07-25 14:07:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont worry about it... let things happen like they happen... i also suggest you find out about this guys wife, and maybe "accidently" let her know about what her husband is up to... he needs to be yanked up by his wife... (she'll get those "short hairs" if you know what i mean)
2006-07-25 14:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation as your wife, met up with an old friend from HS that happened to be an exboyfriend and my hubby is having a fit because my ex hasnt gotten over me and wants me back, but all I want is a friendship from him, but as you know guys dont like the word no so its been a problem for a few weeks now, luckily my friend hasnt called in a few days because my hubby told him off because he showed up at my house when he wasnt home trying to get some from me and I called my hubby and he kicked the **** out of my so called friend.
2006-07-25 14:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you aren't telling all of the story. The "boyfriend" was only 14 and your wife was only 16 and they only dated for two weeks. Your wife is now 34 and totally in love with you. She made contact with this person looking for old friends only. She kept everything with you open and honest and yet you went out of your way to find "something" to get mad about. You asked your wife to stop and she did because she respects and loves you and you still snooped. You then, contacted this guy (who happens to live 4 hours away) by email and told him to stop. Then when your wife asked about it, you lied to her face. You not only contacted him once but you wrote him and replied to him several times and then deleted him from her msn with out telling her. Then you deleted all emails you sent to him. When the other guy left that message, he left in on myspace right where you would see it just to make you mad. She immediately blocked him from everything and then you STILL wrote this stupid question here. You not only wrote this question, but you wrote it from the email addy you never use so she wouldn't find it. She has blocked him, she quit talking to him. Sounds like you might have some issues with trust if you ask me.
2006-07-25 18:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by cabbiegrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife may want a friend, but her friend shouldn't be allowed to p*ss you off. I'd be pretty annoyed at some guy making jokes with sexual overtones to my wife to begin with. Your wife, out of respect to you, should tell this jerk to stop with the sexual messages, pay attention to his own wife, and to leave their communication to a Christmas card once a year. My wife has male "friends" from work, but they don't call my house, and they certainly don't make jokes about her leaving her panties at their place or they would get a visit from me and I won't be in a joking mood. You need to tell your wife just how inappropriate it is for him, or any man, to behave this way. He's lying to his wife, making serious advances toward her whether she chooses to see that or not, and he makes you angry.. No guy belongs doing that. Ask her how she would feel if you suddenly had a "girlfriend" who made jokes about you leaving a pack of condoms at her place, or something along those lines. If your wife is like mine, that woman with have to get a gaping wound stitched shut on her face after a comment like that. Your wife needs to stop communicating with this guy...and now. I'm with you.
2006-07-25 14:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to look at it as if you were the one getting the letters from an old flmae. Would she like it? Probably not. Ask her why she thinks it is okay for him to write her the letters the way he does. It is one thing to have him as a friend, but she needs to have some control over it. She needs to really look at what it all is and is it worth the risk of fight with you about it and possible causing the marriage to break up, if it is heading there.
2006-07-25 14:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by ?Shannan? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a guy.. but couldnt resist answering a question. In my opinion.. there is nothing you can do. She knows it upsets you and he knows also. You either have to trust her or not. It will drive you insane if you let it. Just chill out... things sometimes have a way of working themselves out for the best. If she has no more respect of you than to let this idiot ruin what you both have.. then let her go. I hope the best for you. Good Luck.
2006-07-25 14:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a guy but it sounds to me like your wife is getting a high thrill off of this so called friend...if the guy was a friend he would have respect for the relationship between you and your wife. so the problem is on both sides, the guy and your wife. you stood your ground but she may enjoy seeing you get jeolous of her....your call because my guy friends know when they are close to crossing the line and when the joking has to stop.
2006-07-25 14:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Tell you wife that you seldom ask stuff of her seriously and that you're asking her (not telling her) to stop her communication with this dude.
2. If she says okay, everything is cool.
3. If she says no, then dude, you have a decision to make.
TX Guy
2006-07-25 14:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife doesn't realize that his comments are not appropriate, then there could be something between them. Nothing wrong with talking with old friends and I do commend her honesty, but come on now. Enough is enough.
2006-07-25 14:12:55 · answer #9 · answered by vato_loco_in_Texas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her to stop having contact with him b/c it makes you uncomfortable (As I am sure she must realize by your question and reaction to him). She should have enough respect to stop talking to him. He obviously wants more from her she knows it!
The only thing you can do is ask her and trust her that he does stop. You said you can trust her.
2006-07-25 14:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Chef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go show this stuff to his wife, let her deal with it and cause some trouble in his mairage, if he calls your house then you can call the cops, if your wife is defending him then you give her an ultimatum to think about
2006-07-25 15:21:33 · answer #11 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋