Dress just like you, try to look just like you, uses the same words that you do, oddly enough likes the same things that you do even though she doesn't understand (like Russian movies and cartoons and she doesn't speak or know any russian)
Is ones personality beign stolen by their mother ?
2006-07-25 14:06:33 · 7 answers · asked by Annybunny 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Annybunny,
Thanks for your question.
As you enter your adolescence, it is a difficult period for your parents as they no longer know how to relate with you.
Your mother is probably trying to be your friend. I would be good to her and try to make her understand that you need to have your own identity.
Best wishes to you and your mother.
2006-07-25 14:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a mom who has been there, it is easy to want to stay close to your kids, and sometimes the best way is to have things in common to talk about so that the gap doesn't widen any more than it has to. It is hard for a mom to lose her little girls. My daughters, now 26 and 25 get a kick out of helping their old mom stay hip. I feel like a fool, but what the heck...it's girlie stuff. It's tough on all of us, this growing up. My girls call me every day when they can, and no less than 3 times a week. They buy me stuff all the time to match the fads, where I like the classics. It's okay. I feel like at least they care about what I look like. Maybe I am a reflection on them too? Good question. Thanks. Nana
2006-07-25 21:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you Russian?
Moms who try to resemble their children, especially their young daughters, are insecure about their personalities, lives, and mostly age. They can't face the fact that they are getting older and need an ongoing source of youth. Sometimes, this can only be hurtful to the children. At a certain point in time, your mother needs to realize it's ok to get older and beautify with age and that she needs to be your mother NOT your friend.
2006-07-25 21:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by London 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We often re-live our youth through the experiences of our children.
When the daughter you will have gets the age that you are now, it is you that will be as your mother is now and you will understand what your mother is going through.
2006-07-25 21:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by gejepsen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she's probably trying to share things with you to identify with you so that you share things with her on the same level. Sometimes it looks cooky, but play along with it, you might have fun and you guys may end up closer for it!
Toodles
2006-07-25 21:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by MarQus1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother is probably scared of being thought of as old or not in fashion or somthing. older generations rarely keep up with the culture and fashions because they arent exposed to it. you are an easy link to what she thinks is an example of todays style and trends.
2006-07-25 21:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its simple and yet very complex, your mom is trying to "connect" with you because she cares and wants you to talk with her.
But at the same time, in my opinion, kids need PARENTS who act like parents who set rules like parents, who are NOT your best freind.
2006-07-25 21:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋