Were you abused as a child? Have you forgiven the abuser?

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Answer 1

I was emotionally, mentally, physically, and sexually abused for about 13-15 years of my life, then raped at 18. I had been abused by an unknown man before the age of 2, by my dad that adopted me until I was about 14 or 15, and by my maternal grandfather. They are all dead now. I was then raped by a date.

As for the childhood abusers, I am still conflicted with what to do: forgive or not. I want to forgive them, but I have no way to contact them and let them know how I feel, etc. I could write a letter, which would never be sent, but I don't logically see the sense in it. I don't hate them, I just don't want to forgive just yet. So, I have learned to just let it go and let God deal with it.

As for the rapist, I only know his first name. It took me a long time (many years), but I was able to work thru it with years of counseling (same with the childhood abuse).

I don't know if you ever 'heal' from childhood abuse. I believe that you can learn to deal with what happened to you, let it go, and let God deal with the abuser(s). As for forgiveness, that is a hard thing for me to do, especially with abusers.

Answer 2

I was abused by my father, im 43 and i will never forgive him, he was a monster when i was little now im 6 ft 240 and he got his, just remember that the abused grow up and can get even someday

Answer 3

yes i was abused a child but i was in my teen years.a high school bf of mine.thought that he could just hold me down and kiss me and do anything to me.and he told me if i told anyone he would kill me.one day my class went on a Field trip to a police station. and I talked to one of the cops there.about it with out my mom there of course.and he told me that he would talk to him. and not tell him who sent him to talk to him.that was over 10 years ago so theres nothing anyone can do about it now.

Answer 4

I was sexually abused by my stepdad, which led to years of emotional pain and heartache. I did learn to forgive him. Life is short, and I didn't want to spend mine carrying this tremendous hatred and weight on my shoulders. It's best to forgive and let go. I didn't want him to control me.

Answer 5

i was abused by my step father..and for a long time i didnt forgive him...then one day out of the blue i was visiting him (after i grew up)and i looked at him and realized that i no longer hated him i felt sorry for him..and right before he died he asked me to forgive him and i did

Answer 6

My sister was, I wasn't. At least not physically. So how do you forgive someone for something they did to someone else???? It's not my place, and it's a dishonor to my sister. I have my own issues for other things that happened to me. Mostly due to neglect. That I have mostly fogiven.

Answer 7

yes no want him to rot in hell