well its my dad who needs the help. see Im 13 so i still have to live with my dad but its sometimes dreadful because hes got a alchahol problem. he says he would stop but he still drinks about once a week but thats enough to get him goofy. I hate it when he does but since hes over twenyone i cant do anything about it. I go in my room but it still makes me upset that he keeps telling me he would stop but never does and outside my room hes probably chuggin away. hes been to A&A but just dont care i guess to recover. can anyone please give me some advice to tell him about what drinkin does and stuff. He just wont listen to me. I cant take him anymore, just a can can make him start sweatin and talkin funny.
2006-07-25 13:55:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Patience, love and annoying the heck out of him until he seeks help, in the mean time contact the local AA and find out what programs they have for children of alcoholics in your area to help you deal.
2006-07-25 13:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about you at this point for him. His sober self might love you to death and want to do ANYTHING for you, but if he is truly addicted to alcohol, then that is really his number one priority, even over you. He needs it, for whatever reason, he seems to need it in order to survive... even though it's really going to kill him in the end. Anyway, all I can say to you is you need to find a way to get from yourself the things you'd want him to give you. You need to find a way, that is not self-destructive, to deal with these issues, because it's not your fault. And though it's not your fault, somehow it is your problem, and that is completely unfair! It is unfair and you shouldn't like it, but you shouldn't let it drag you down or hinder you from living a normal and happy life.
Some ways you can deal with it, deal with the frustration that he causes you though you didn't ask for that worry and frustration and SURELY don't deserve it, are to write in a journal. Take your frustration out there, or you can do some art, or dance or whatever really interests you. Sports are good for aggression as well.
I'm sorry I don't have better advice on how to deal with your dad, but it's not really in your control, you have no part in it really, all you can do is deal with yourself and the feelings you'll have about it.
2006-07-25 14:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree contact a local AA and see what some of the suggestions are from them...my main thing about drinking is drinking and driving....my mom set up a rule in the house years ago about that..well she got a new husband and he drank and drove a lot..i talked to my mom about it and told her he needs to stop before he hurts someone or them and someone else..i just talked to her about it..and i had to do it more than once with her...but not one time did i start yellin and screaming at her, i was more hurt than anything...i suggest you talk to your dad and tell him how you want to have him around a while and you hate to see him drinking so much...tell him how much it effects you....you can also do a search on the internet to find out what drinkin can do to your body..like liver damage and stuff.
good luck!
2006-07-25 14:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by taytayjomar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are a very strong person and i would like to ca mend you for being so strong so young. I had an uncle that was like that. He ignored every one until one day I wait until he was sober and had an extreme emotional out burst I yelled and cried until i could see that I got to him show him that it is hurting you also ask if there is a place where i live like were i went were kids can go to AA w/ their relatives to help support them and express themselves as well. good luck and stay strong
PS-try not to confront your father while he is drunk, that could probably go really bad
2006-07-25 14:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by von 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you are 13 and in the eyes of the court you could live with any family member willing to take you in.and im sorry but someone who drinks like that will usually drink for the rest of thier lives.my dad was the same way and i begged and pleaded but in the end he drank himself to death.maybe if you talked to a grandparent or someone in the family who could take custody of you he will wake up and try to get help.but at that stage only something drastic like losing his kid might snap him out of it.good luck.
2006-07-25 14:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one.if he doesn't stop drinking hes going to end up dead.and you wont have a daddy.I can see that you didn't mention anything about you're mom.Is she still around?and if something happend to her I'm sorry for asking about her.It sounds as if you need a parent to talk to.I'm a parent and if you need to talk I'm here.You shouldn't have to go through this alone. good luck honey.
2006-07-25 14:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize at 13, it's hard to do much of anything. But there is a group for family of alcholics, is it Al-Anon, when you can look into that and see if you can get help for yourself. There isn't much chance of changing him.
2006-07-25 13:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have a dad he passed away but i think on ebaums world theres this thing when a guy drinks and dude he looks hideous
2006-07-25 14:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by zorroplaya2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaawwww, if you have the heart, you can go to the police, he is neglecting you and possible abbusing you. Email me if you want, I am 14. My email is TacoGirl4959@yahoo.com and if you tell me where you live, I could get you some phone numbers that could help you. Please email me.
2006-07-25 14:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋