My (Well, used to be 'Best Friend') now has a boyfriend. He now takes up all (and I mean ALL) of her time. I feel like she has just up and left me. How do I deal with this feeling of neglect and hurt? It hurts my feelings when she would rather spend time with him rather than with me. In all honesty, I am not asking of a lot of her time, just a couple hours a week...jeez!
2006-07-25 13:50:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
dont be such a hater and get ur own man...i kno wat ur goin thru but its life and ur gonna have 2 get over it
2006-07-25 13:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by Asia B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when a friend doesn't have the time that you would want to spend with them, even when it's a small amount. What I do is go out and visit with old friends I haven't talked to in a while, or make a new one. Don't let your world revolve around her, or it'll only drive you crazy. Get up, move on, and when the 'newness' wears off of her relationship, she'll be calling you. And at that point, you can decide if you want to see her or not. You may just find you've made a new best friend. :)
2006-07-25 20:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by FairyGirl73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens, and believe me I know it sucks. My friends and I used to have a standing dinner date. One night a week that we always met up and just caught up with each other. She'll come back to your friendship eventually. If she's a true friend, just wait it out and understand that there may be a time that she is single and you have a man. Then she will be in the same place you are right now. My best friend in HS went thru men all the time, but we stuck by each other, and almost 10 years later, we are still best friends!
2006-07-25 20:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by dreamofme0202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No person can be everything and all to another person and it should not be expected. Talk to your friend and tell her you miss her. Hopefully, she should realize that friendships don't cease just because one is in a relationship. The first step is opening up the lines of communication and letting her know how you feel. Then, base your next move on her response. Either make a date to get together or rethink the friendship. Good luck.
2006-07-25 20:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. Tell her that you just wanna spend some time with her-just like at the mall or something for a few hours. If she can't even do that or go out to lunch with you then she's really addicted to her boyfriend.
If she blows you off-then blow her off. Any "best friend" like that shouldn't even be considered a best friend...more like a really messed up friend. Go find some good friends who aren't like her.
2006-07-25 20:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you in her life too, but she doesn't want to ruin whats just started...love. Plus she is jealous of your beauty and worries he will loose the interest he has in her now.
If you really are a friend just wait, consider the possibility that she would rather say nothing to you at all, and keep your friendship...then possibly hurt your feelings...and fight.
2006-07-25 20:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her some time or even speak to her and let her know how you feel. tell her you feel shes forgeten about your friendship but whatever you do dont get mad alot of us girls forget about our friends while in the relationship but when things start to go down hill your the first people we run to and the ones there for us to cry on so just take it easy for a while she'll come around. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-07-25 20:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is just excited about her new boyfriend. She'll come around. Just make sure you don't push her away. Call her every so often to see how she is doing. Let her know that you still want to be her best friend and that you want to spend time with her too.
2006-07-25 20:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by moose_skinner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens when new relationships start, in a couple of weeks the balance will be back. Why not gently explain how you feel, and suggest a girly night.
2006-07-25 20:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by Nneave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her and don't sound jealous it is not that. Tell her when she is having problems you will be there for her but tell her you would like to do a girls night to catch up on things go out have fun and talk about boys or whatever. See how that goes.
2006-07-25 20:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by unsure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you want to spend time with her...it's not a lot to ask!..especially of your so called best friend....tell her how you feel and if she doesn't understand take a break...it's very typical of a girl to act like this toward her friends when she has a new bf..it'll pass..hope i helped
2006-07-25 20:54:53 · answer #11 · answered by M E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋