My Husband is deploying in 2 weeks and he is being a major a** hole how do i get him to stop?

Question

i know that he is stressed out but i want to enjoy the time we have left before he leaves and he wants to spend it arguing right now its at the point that i dont even want to be around him

Answer 1

It takes two to argue.

Your husband is afraid of dying, as many of us are. He especially does not want to die alone in a foreign country fighting a war he does not believe in. You should cut him some slack. Remember, this might be the last two weeks you will ever spend with him. The next time you see him, he could be in one of Bush's boxes.

You should bite your tongue, even if you have to chew it off. Love him like crazy the next two weeks. You will never regret it. And if he comes home, he will never forget it.

Good luck. Remember, bite your tongue.

Answer 2

Yes, he probably is stressed out. Get your Bible and turn to Psalm 67 and 68 and read it out loud. Pray for your husband. Pray that his courage will be strong; Pray that his fears will be conquered; Pray that his safety will be secure. He is going thousands of miles away and facing an enemy who hates Americans. Pray that God will give you the patience and understanding to be the helpmeet that you need to be during this season of your lives. Only God can soothe away His anxiety about this deployment. Trust God to take care of the problem. And, do it in JESUS' name. God be merciful unto you and bless you and cause his face to shine upon you; Selah.

Answer 3

tell him exactly what you just said the " i know that he is stressed out but i want to enjoy the time we have left before he leaves " part

Answer 4

I really feel for you and you are right he is stressed!! But all you can do is tell him how you feel and hopefully he realizes and changes his mood!!
You know all the "what if's" that are going through his mind!!!
Just be patient with him!!
I have no idea what you and your family are feeling right now but what i do know is My Prayers and Support go out to your family and all the Military families!!

Answer 5

I'm sorry he's being deployed. Please thank him for being so brave. My husband always starts to act like a jerk a week before he has to go out of town. I think he does it unconsciously to make himself like he's not going to miss us as much. I always tell him he's being an @$$ so that way I won't miss him when he's gone! It makes him laugh, and it brings to his attention that he's being that way without sounding accusatory or combative.

Answer 6

It is nerves. Be honest and non confrontational. Just try to understand /empathize. This is a hard time for BOTH of you, take deep breaths when he wants to argue with you.

As Dr Phil says, be the hero in this relationship. Resolve not to engage in the fight.

Please take care.

Answer 7

Tell him you realize he is stressed and all and suggest somethings to do to make the most of this time and have him give equal input into this.

Answer 8

Let him know that you are upset to, but you are trying to make the best of things, as it were. Then don't say another word, just go up to him front or back, and hug him hard.

Answer 9

tell him how much u love him and how much you'll miss him. try to get him to talk to you about whats on his mind, tell him you want the next few weeks enjoyable and fun, and you dont want to have a bad feeling in the pit of your stomach while hes gone.

Answer 10

This is who he is. This is not about his deployment or anything. You will see this after his return. Maybe worse because a man is seriously changed after war. My best wishes for you both and good luck.