my girl friend recently gave birth to our child but i dont think this child is mine ,i am white so my girl freind but the baby is black
i dont know how to say to her that i dont believe that is my baby
i dont wanna to jump to conclusions but i dont know what to do
2006-07-25 13:42:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What do you mean you don't want to jump to conclusions?! If you are white, and you're parents are white, and you're grandparents are white, and the same on her side, then the child is not yours!
However, if either yours or her parents or grandparents are black then this child can be yours because genes can skip generations.
If you're in doubt then you can get a DNA test and tell her that you are obviously worried if the baby is yours and you have every reason to be.
2006-07-25 13:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having this thought because the child is black, that is just silly if the mother is black. I think that you would know in you heart if you girlfriend was able to cheat on you and have another mans child and lie to you about that. You know her better then we do. Maybe you are just scared that you have brought a life into this world and that is normal. Don't ruin a good thing, if it is really about you and not her.
2006-07-25 13:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by cherrypie p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Goodness, maybe you can go to the Courthouse and ask for a DNA Test..Dang, thats rough. But is better to find out now, than later. The baby deserves to know who her real father is...
You can always bring the baby to your mother and ask her (or your grandma). They can usually tell if the baby is your just by looking at it. Good Luck
2006-07-25 13:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, you need to talk to her. There is something wrong. You are both white and the baby is black, then it is not your child or there was a baby switch at the hospital. And I don't think it was a baby switch. Talk to her.
2006-07-25 13:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by ?Shannan? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at my face look at yours.Dont be a sucker,most likely the baby is not yours so get a DNA test.And dont wait to tell her how you feel or youll be lying to yourself bro.Good luck and God bless!
2006-07-25 13:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by B-Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could this be a throw back is there any people in your family or her family that are black. if not do a DNA test. to bring this up point out why your concerned and that you have doubts in your mind.
2006-07-25 13:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg shes playing you as a fool, she cheated on you, and got pregnant, and probably thought it was yours, if that child came out black i would of walked out, and never looked back, because thats pretty sad she would stick that low. get rid of her, shes wrong for doing that to you. you deserve much better.
2006-07-25 13:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez. Ask her. If you're too scared to ask her this question, what kind of parents will you make???? Think of the worst case scenario, prepare for it, then ask her about it. Whatever her answer is, you don't have to make any decisions right on the spot. Trust your instinct.
2006-07-25 13:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by rebecca r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple...you need to get a hold of a paternity test. Go and do this before other drama happens....like you get her pregnant this time!!!
2006-07-25 13:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by alllakersin2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.....let me say this: both me & my ex are dark skin but my kid turn out fair. Go for a DNA test juz to be sure.
2006-07-25 13:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋