Been with married man for 5 yrs, have 2 kids with him, who he has nothing to do with. But yet I can't kick him out of my life, everyday hurts me more because of how much I love him. Why would he keep coming back, if he felt nothing? And it's not just about sex, even though it may seem that way. There's talking, cuddling, laughing, openness, and appartently a desire to not say anything when it comes to how he feels.
2006-07-25 13:16:44 · 13 answers · asked by missing_something 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i wouldn't say you were stupid it sounds like you are just following your heart, it think doing this can destroy our lives cause we will tend to follow the things we want the only thing i can suggest is think really hard about your situation and use your head rather than your heart, weigh up what is best for your situation, what your needs are and what your children's needs are, you could try taking a step back from this man and seeing if he wants you and will chase you for more than fulfilling his own needs
you obviously have a heart and a very caring one at that to so find what it is that you want and what is best for you and your children and chase it
good luck with all that you decide and chose to do
2006-07-25 13:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Your name is just right for you since you honestly believe this man may have feel lings for you. You said you have 2 kids by him and he doesn't have anything to do with them. What will you tell them when they ask about their dad? That he was married and couldn't play or watch your games since he had another family somewhere else. What were you even thinking to get started with a married man? I hope you find the courage to kick him out of your life and make sure your children are well taken care of a man who didn't care enough to leave the first family. I have nothing for you as far as feelings of sorrow because you were the one who made these choices.
2006-07-25 20:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made your bed and now you must lay in it. If he hasn't left his wife in the past five years what makes you think he will ever leave her?
I understand that with children involved it makes things more difficult and maybe that is why you continue to let this man in your life and in their lives. I have to ask why continue on this way if he hurts you everyday? Do you not believe that you deserve someone who will love you and only you? and who will actually be in your children's lives!
I understand that you believe that it's not just about sex, and to you it may very well be more then just sex. BUT I have a feeling that when it comes to him... it's just that SEX.
2006-07-25 20:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're selling yourself short. Do you really enjoy sharing the man that you love? He may truly love you but at the same time he loves another woman. Maybe he just keeps dragging you along because he thinks that you will always be there. Maybe in his head he can do whatever and you will still be there to give him exactly what he wants. And at the same time you will just take what attention you can get from him. Because you think you love him so much and you can't be without him. In reality you can. And you can live without him and be a lot happier. Be honest with yourself....are you truly happy?
2006-07-25 20:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REMEMBER THIS - What goes around comes around. First and foremost - he's using you. He tells you things you want to hear, and you feel good in that moment. Yet, when he leaves, you are feeling empty. Kids? Now we've really messed up. They have brothers and sisters probably and don't even know them. Have u ever heard of incest? Woman, get real and get over him. Get your child support and write a letter to his wife apologizing. She will hate ya at first, but she should know as well. Also, are you sure you're the only one he's sleeping with?
2006-07-25 20:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ra_shunda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. Your life will follow your focus. You are focused on something that is negative right now. Look around! There are better things out there for you. It's your choice. And you're not stupid--stupid people don't ask questions. My advice: walk away with dignity and start looking for the good stuff . . . because this ain't it!
2006-07-25 20:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it says you have been with a marred man for 5 yrs ? is he married to someone else ? and you just have kids with him . if so then you are just a mistress to fullfill the needs his wife cannot. i have read the other statments and it doesnt seem like they even caught it . but anyways if he is married adn not to you then hes not going to change . you either have to accept it or move on and raise your kids
2006-07-25 20:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is haveing his cake and eating it too. He is using you for all the things he doesn't get at home. Then goes back to the comfort and security of his home, wife and family. You need to kick him to the curb, get his child support for those babies, and move on cause you are better than a door mat....good luck
2006-07-25 20:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by cuz_it_let_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your children...he comes back because you let him...your better then that, take control of you feelings. Stop letting him hurt your family, you and the kids deserve better.
2006-07-25 20:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kipper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a convenient outlet for whatever he needs at the moment. You fill desires in him (not just sexual) without him having to pay any price for them (emotional, financial, etc.)
Don't you know when you're being used? In more ways than one?
2006-07-25 20:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋