2006-07-25 13:05:07 · 7 answers · asked by barbiesworldinsc 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I should mention I just turned 38 and we have been married for 18 years. I really think he feels threatened in some way and tells me my desire is stupid and a waste of time , although i know he is wrong .
2006-07-25 13:18:27 · update #1
Option A: Tell him that you got such a low paying job that you have to pay to do it and that you will work odd times. Do all of your school work at cafes and come home acting like you were at work all day.
Option B: Tell him that you love him with what he does and that he should love you with what you do. If he does not, than he may not be Mr. Right. Love can wait a few years. No shame!
2006-07-25 13:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Education_is_future 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Continue your education. It sounds like this is bringing about much emotional frustration. Your husband is not your life. Is he? If he is that opposed to you seeking something that you feel will better yourself (and it will) you two may need to speak with a counselor of any type. Be confident in your decision to continue and reach that goal. In what other areas do you not feel supported? I applaud your educational decisions and strongly urge you to "go for it" if this is something you want to complete. Find grants and other sources for fundage if this is part of the problem. Work on campus through the work-study programs available.
Just don't allow him to make you feel less secure than really are you (yes, that was proper English, folks. "Don't end sentences with a 'be' verb").
2006-07-25 20:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let no person stand between you and an education. People will come and go, but what idiot wouldn't want their mate to better themselves. It helps the person going to school and the family in general with so many increased benefits. If you had to choose, choose an education because it's something that no one can take from you and even if he decides to leave, you'll be able to support yourself because of it.
2006-07-25 20:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by sanatori2050 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you were continuing your education before he didn't support you. What would the problem with you continuing your education anyway?
I hope that things go well for you.
2006-07-25 20:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by fieldworking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he feels threatened that you will find a more educated man who will take his place. Reassure him that you want to be married to him (unless of course, if you are going to school to find someone else).
Rather than a full schedule, find one class that he might be interested in, then ask him to take it with you. Once he sees that getting your education is no threat to him, he will be more willing for you to pursue your education full time.
Good luck & GOD bless.
2006-07-25 20:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by woman of faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could take irregular classes. that wqy, you can continue your studies and at the same time fulfill your role as a mother and husband. :) your schedule would depend on the free time you have.
2006-07-25 20:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by yawmee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldnt he support it? Afraid you will make more money than him? I would do it anyway. He may not always be around to "support" you! Good luck.
2006-07-25 20:07:47 · answer #7 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋