i love him a lot and want to make him happy but i dont know if i am ready for that yet. he really is a great guy tho. what should i do????
2006-07-25 13:00:59 · 57 answers · asked by chikadee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i am way over 13!! and those arent misspellings....i was trying to make the words shorter.
2006-07-25 13:03:55 · update #1
he's 18 and i am 17.
2006-07-25 13:07:58 · update #2
Don't have sex yet! It can very well ruin your relationship! I suggest waiting another 6 months to a year.
2006-07-25 14:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 2 · 7⤊ 6⤋
you should wait on that...do that when you are ready too...who cared if it makes him want to be happy about it. If you lose it to him and you lose him...then you lost everything there is. Not really alot of trust in other men. If you lost it to him and he left...then thats bad luck...don't have sex with him. Do it when you are ready... i say after marriage or you can b4 marrige to the right one...I say this is better. But even if he asks you about it...tell him how you feel don't be keeping it to your self...he needs to know...so open up. If he leave you for any particular reason and he tells you something other than the sex thing...its more likely a lie...i say its cuz you didn't give your virginity up to him. In which he may think your not good enough for him to give to. He leaves..o well at least you know you there is a special someone out there waiting for you. And it will not be him. 1 year is not long enough to give your virginity up to your boyfriend...
2006-07-25 13:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he REALLY loves you, he'll respect you and wait. It's your body and it's your decision. Don't let him talk you into something you're not ready for. My boyfriend was willing to wait because he loved me and didn't want me to do anything I'd regret. I decide when I'm ready, not him. Sure, he's going to think about it a lot, and he's going to want it, but don't do it if you're not ready. If he loves you, he'll understand. If he can't understand that you aren't ready to take that step, you need to find someone new. You can still make him happy and not have sex. Good luck and I hope you make the right choice.
2006-07-25 13:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure then don't do it. My dad always said, "when in doubt, chicken out" and it's proved to be right every time.
When I met my husband I didn't want to have sex (I never told him that I didn't), but I did it anyway and then I felt like crap. I knew he loved me with all his heart, but I also felt like our relationship revolved around sex because we did it so much. After a while I broke up with him, because I needed to sort things out (we were already engaged by then), it was 5 months before our wedding no less. We were apart for 4 months and when we got back together I told him that I wanted to wait untill we got married to have sex again. He respected my wishes and let me tell you that the sex was the greatest on our wedding night. Not only because it had been a while, but because we both knew it was okay to do. We conceived our son on that night because God approved of it.
If you're not ready for a child I strongly suggest abstaining. If you feel you need to satisfy him sexually learn some different tricks to do with his penis & your mouth and/or tongue. There are plenty of other ways to please him other than intercourse, you just have to be creative.
If he's not satisfied with waiting or your creativity in the other ways of granting him sexual satisfaction then he doesn't respect you enough & you don't deserve him. If he truly loves you & respects you, he'll also respect your wishes to wait & he won't pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.
Good luck!!!
2006-07-25 13:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by gorf79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't want to have sex until I was married. An unfortunate event happened and I was not able to acheive that. I know that it is rare to find people who wait until they are married, but I will tell you before I married my husband now we waited and it was well worth the wait.
Once you have sex with someone you are giving a part of yourself up that you can never get back. Before you make this decision make sure it is absolutely something you want to do because it is a huge change in life. If you decide against it and your boyfriend doesn't agree with you, then he truly doesn't love you and it's not worth being with someone who doesn't respect you in EVERY way!!
2006-07-25 13:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by jellybean91827 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, sex is not just the physical part, but the psychological, emotional and other parts, too. If, like what the others have said, your man dumps you after a while, can you cope with it and not worry that you're no longer a virgin? If you can, go ahead and enjoy your relationship to the fullest. But if you're convinced you can't, then don't. It's just amatter of how you can handle yourself, not the others. What's important always is yourself, not the others.
2006-07-25 13:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Is there a big difference in age (3 years or more)? If so, don't-- he is likely taking advantage of your innocence. Also, I'd think it through-- the fact that you are doubting yourself may indicate its not the right time yet. When its time you will know.
2006-07-25 13:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Hugo Reyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure that you are ready then, chances are, you aren't. Your boyfriend doesn't get to decide when *you* are ready for sex. YOU get to decide that. Believe me, wait until you feel ready because it will be a *much* more pleasurable and memorable experience if you do. And, you won't feel pressured or used.
2006-07-25 13:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by techie74354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel ready to give it up then don't do it. Virginity is a once in a lifetime event so enjoy it until you are completely comfortable with giving it up. If he's not understanding of this than he's probably not the one for you.
2006-07-25 13:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Shikibeeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to your heart. If I were you I would wait until I get married. Also depending how old you are sex is another stressful thing to add to your relationship. So just keep those in mind. Don't let him push you into something you do not want to do.
2006-07-25 13:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you do love him but if he really loves you back he'll wait for you to make the first move. AND DON'T DO IT JUST FOR HIM. Wait until you are ready. It'll be better for both of you.
2006-07-25 13:05:21 · answer #11 · answered by pebble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋