My husbands ex wife (mother of his 2 children) was involved in a domestic violence case last week and "said" her b/f beat her up. she was in the hospital for 3 days and begged the police not to take her b/f to jail (he was on parole so hes back in prison) and come to find out SHE actually was the one doing all the hitting and we later found out she tried to committ suicide on anti depressants (thats what put her in the hospital to begin with). she NOW is back together with her (4th) ex husband who supposedly molested a child. My question is, should my husband get an order for temp. custody of his 2 kids with her? I feel shes obviously mentally unstable and not to mention she has 5 other children to deal with besides my husbands 2. any advice? Anybody know if he would even have a chance for full temp. custody??
2006-07-25 12:41:23 · 23 answers · asked by heavensent41770 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
More details, everybody says to call cps but ive done that TWICE already with this husband shes with and both times, "lack of evidence, case dropped".. He took 2 lie detectors and the 1st came back inconclusive and the 2nd he failed and why hes not in jail for that is beyond me but the other 5 kids ARE HIS(3 girls/2boys), so obviously cps aint doin their jobs and i dont know what else to do with them
2006-07-25 12:55:33 · update #1
Do you know when something is happening? I've been on so many calls having to do with kids, and someone beating up someone and as a firefighter i have to call CPS. Maybe if you know exactlly when something is happening, call 911, someone will go out and they well call CPS. They may be thinking that dad wants kids for some reason, not to pay child support whatever. They in their small brains think something is fishy with the parent calling in...Just call 911, police and or fire will call it in and they are a nutral party. Oh another idea, have someone not attached to the situation call in and see if that works, a neighbor or something.
Good Luck
2006-07-25 13:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless he is as unstable as she is. What the hell is he waiting for, this is an extremely vilotile condition where the children are in danger. Notify his atty, the dept of children welfare, the courts and whoever else he has to, to get those kids out of there. This is a no brainer, those kids are in danger. Get the kids out and then worry about going after custody afterwards. Do something before the kids get hurt. Stuff like this makes one wonder why are some people parents? Good luck
2006-07-25 12:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that the mother tried to commit suicide, yes, your husband, and you should be able to get full custody of the children, due to the fact that the mother might endanger the livesof the children, you really need to hira an attorney, he will be allowed to subpeopn all her medical records regarding her visit to the hospital, as well as her other ex's criminal record to see if he has ever been charged with molesting a child,
I strongly reccomend that you do this ASAP. Do not wait any loner as the children might be in a potenital dangerous situation.
2006-07-25 12:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by dahorndogd013 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this woman is realy with a childmolester and she has 5 other children to look after ..i would be calling the department of child protection 1st thing .... the childs safety should be your main concern ...her history sounds quite bad and if she is putting the children at risk or if she is at risk to herself then you and your husband would have a very good case for residency orders from the family court ... if i was you i would be getting legal advive A.S.A.P...Report her to child protection not only for your husbands kids but also the others ...maybe you can be the only voice for these children and how will you feel if something happens to them and you just sat back and did nothing
2006-07-25 12:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by cheeky_baby76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was any of this reported to Child/Family Services in your county or area??? DHR/DHS, any of those agengies could have been informed. If the children were around when all of this was happening, and a police report was filed, the children's names and pictures were probably taken as well, since they were minors in the presence of a domestic dispute. I would contact your area child services agengy, DHR,DHS, whatever it is in your county, or city, and find out what your possible options are. I would also consider contacting a good attorney. I do not think what the children are surrounded by is considered a healthy environment, but I am not a child services agent either. Good luck!!!
2006-07-25 12:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by thedothanbelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for the first part of your question. Yes, I would take her back to court. The courts don't like it when kids are put into that kind of position. Any violence, whatsoever is not good for kids. And the fact that she tried to commit suicide tells me that shes not very stable. She doesn't sound like a very good parent to me. If you were to go into court and tell the judge all of this, they would probably be appalled. the judge would probably give you full legal custody, and it wouldn't be temporary. If those were my kids. I would be at the courthouse tomorrow filing a petition for change of circumstances, and contacting my lawyer. Those kids don't need to see stuff like that. Get them out of there as soon as you can. I wish you all the luck. God Bless.
2006-07-25 12:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can prove she is suicidal by taking a medical report or police report with you to court, or even evidence she is violent to other people then the judge has no choice but to realize her home is no place for the kids and your husband should get full custody. But remember the old saying. "proof is in the pudding." you have to show evidence she is unfit. The judge just is not going to take your word.
2006-07-25 12:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the dude she is with now a convicted child molester??? If so, just all the police and they will go get the kids,
I would definiltely talk to an attorney and try to get the kids out of there. If you dont have the money for an attorney get ahold of DFS and they will take the kids out of the home. Chances are you hubby would get them then.
2006-07-25 12:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the children are in danger than why wait get to an attorney and get something done immediatly. You don't say how old the kids are but if they are old enough talk to them and see what they want. If she tried to commit suicide then she needs help and someone has got to protect the kids.
2006-07-25 13:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CPS sucks. I have had to deal with them for my husbands ex wife. Get a lawyer and get into court quick. with the info you have it should be easy to get a temp. order. its in the best intrest of the children. File for an ex parte hearing.
2006-07-25 13:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by jmemallow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋