I called him this morning and he said that he did not look at his texts yet,because he has been so busy. I told him, look I was confused when I sent it please don't take it seriously. He said so you don't want me to look at it? and I said yes! Do you think he will?
2006-07-25 12:39:06 · 10 answers · asked by consigliere 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's already looked at it. Knowledge is power, and there's no way he's going to let that power go. As to the rest, men are attracted to confidence and strength, not insecurity and fear. Your actions show a lack of courage. Breaking up by text? Pretty cowardly. Being indecisive? Not very confident. You're not showing him much about being a strong, dependable, reliable partner, are you?
Perhaps you should?
2006-07-25 12:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by antirion 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he will- out of curiosity. You know, a written statement is just like a verbal one...once you say it- it's said...once you write it...it's there black on white...If he is crazy about you, then yes- he will take your word for it- that you were upset and didn't mean it...but how many times more will this happen?....and how many times have you tried to break it off already up to this point? Is it cold feet? Commitment is a serious matter. A yes is a yes- today, tomorrow and forever... a text message can end a relationship...but once you guys are married...divorce proceedings will be a bit more complicated. I think that message you sent was a cry for attention- as you said he has been so busy. Do you think he will be less busy after you guys get married?
Maybe you will do him and yourself a favor if for once you mean it....
2006-07-25 19:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will and thats a good thing because you two obviously have some stuff you need to straighten out. If you can't talk to this guy how on earth can you consider marrying him? Its not just a wedding its a LIFE. Have you really put the thought and time in to figuring out what all that means? Have you really thought about WHEN is the right time to actually get married. Here are some tips on when:
When you have been together long enough to be out of the infatuation stage. When you have discussed ALL the issues involved in life after the wedding like finances, division of household labor, children, in laws, where to live, jobs, time away with friends, and a million other things you haven't thought of. After all of that you consider each part of the vows, and what you consider is the difficult side of them, anybody can be happy when things are going well so,
richer or poorer....still want to be with him in a shack with crackers ala peanut butter for dinner?
sickness and health...he develops a chronic physical or mental illness and can't get around and can't work, still want to be with him?
better or worse...he's in a car accident and you have to spend the rest of your life feeding him and changing his diapers, still want to be married?
keep yourself only to him, can you REALLY only have sex with only him until you die?
THIS is what marriage is, not a fairy tale where everything goes well everyday, the one guarantee you have is that things WILL go wrong. Remember, you answer all these questions after you have passed infatuation, after you know what his bad points are and still consider it anyway.
If you think you are up for all of this then maybe you should think about it but you can't even talk to him about why you are confused enough to send a text calling off the relationship! That is NOT a good sign. This is reality here and changes both of you forever, its not a game. You have some serious thinking to do and it goes way beyond whether or not he reads a message you sent him.
2006-07-25 19:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he will look, it's like telling a person not to do something b/c you know the outcome, but a lot of times people have to learn things for themselves. B/c you told him not to look he is going to do it; but you should also put the shoe on the other foot to me that was a cowardly way to handle things. If you were confused or uncertain you should not have gotten engaged in the first place. Most of the time people get engaged when they are "certain" of their significant other. How would you like it if we did that to you? You wouldn't so why do it to him?
2006-07-25 19:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sent a text message to tell your fiance' its over?? WOW! ! you couldn't even be woman enough to tell him to his face?? i don't even think he should take you back after you sent him a text message telling him it was over!
he probably has read it by now. if he didn't then he probably will being as though you made it a point to tell him not to read it!
really take some time to sort your thoughts out regarding marriage, your relationship with fiance', personal growth etc....ask yourself what are you confused about? once you truly answer that honestly, then you will be able to close that door and move on with your engagement...
until then you may be flip flopping back and forth and eventually he wont continue playing those games!
2006-07-25 19:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will look at it. Why did you text that to him? Good luck girl! This maybe the end of it for you and you boyfriend. If you want to keep this relationship you need to do some major damage control!
2006-07-25 20:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you really think? You tell a man not to do something, then think he wont? If I were him, Id be busting my butt to get to it as it had to be really good for you to do what you did. But with what you told him , your relationship is probably not over but you have certainly got him thinking what if she were serious? Next time think about what you are about to do, especially if you dont really mean it. Good luck
2006-07-25 19:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will and you need to figure out what you want with your life and don't ever break up with someone with a text message, its rude, you at least owe it to him to tell him face to face
2006-07-25 19:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by jencymercado 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Antirion
2006-07-26 00:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by cinsaint1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he does, just tell him you were messing with him, or testing his love,... make up some BS excuse. common you're a girl!
2006-07-25 19:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by kujiiiro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋