I got deployed to Iraq in Sept of 05. I got a divorce in Oct 05. I got engaged to a soldier from my unit in Jan 06. I have recently started talking to my Ex Wife via email. Is this wrong of me? I am starting to really miss her bc I never really got to explain anything to her and we have always been close and been able to talk about anything. she knows that I am engaged and is not holding it against me, she still wants to be friends. Am I wrong for doing this???
2006-07-25 12:37:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no my fiance does not know that i am emailing my ex,
2006-07-25 12:44:23 · update #1
If you still have feelings for her, I think you are wrong for what you're doing. I think you should at least let your fiance know what's going on. She's in your life now, soon to be your wife, and is now as much into your personal life as you are. There's nothing wrong with staying friends with ex-lovers or even ex-wives. But when your feelings get in the way, it's pretty much cheating. It kind of sounds like this new woman is a rebound for you to try and forget your ex. You should really think this new marriage through before you take that step again.
2006-07-25 12:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with your fiancee. Is this engagement really what you want, or is it becuase you are deployed and with this person in the same spot?? Did you ask for the divorce or did your ex??? A friendship is good as long as you are honest with both your ex and your fiancee...and actually yourself. Make sure your engagement is what you want, and be honest with your ex and tell her wat happened, I am sure she would appreciate it. Take care over there!!!! I dated a guy who was stationed in Iraq, and was actually engaged back in 1991, when he came back from the first go around. Unfortunately, we split up as he got out of the Army, he wanted me to go home which was north with him, and at the time I wasn't leaving my hometown in Nashville.
2006-07-25 13:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by thedothanbelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband nonetheless gets calls from his ex and their young infants are grown and long previous. I enable him be attentive to that's annoying and he assures me there's no longer something occurring with them. She is an ex for a reason. I asked him to deter the calls. So, she despatched him a text fabric wishing him a happy fathers day and then there exchange into no longer something from her for his birthday. I merely don't experience there could be any touch from an ex till there are young infants in contact and for that reason basically.
2016-11-03 00:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are more feelings then just friends festering around inside of you then yes.. and you have to ask yourself the question would you want your finance' to do that with her ex husband if not then you shouldn't be doing it.. if you are still having feelings for her then you need to call off your engagement before it's to late.. good luck
2006-07-25 12:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Idiot, you sound like a stupid girl not a man.
What part of being a soldier is NOT about being responsible and what part about talking to an ex shows RESPONSIBLE behavior to the person you intend to marry.
Be a man so I don't have to chew you out again for your "girlish" behavior.
2006-07-25 12:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay away from the ex for awhile. Break it off completely. Write her one more email and explain everything to her. I don't think it is fair to the new person for you to be in contact with your ex. Good luck.
2006-07-25 12:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting further and further into a lose-lose situation!
Stop everything with your ex!
Give this engaged girl a chance ....6 months.
If it works out, you are on your way.
If it doesn't work out, go full steam with the ex.
2006-07-25 13:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind. If you want to be free don't get engaged. You will end of hurting your finance' That is not fair.
2006-07-25 12:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by Juliett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES.... does your fiance know about this? if she knows and is ok with it, its not wrong unless your intentions are wrong. why did you get engaged so soon anyway? maybe you and your fiance need to have a talk???
2006-07-25 12:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by heavensent41770 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHeez, guy. You're missing home. Your ex represents a lot of that to you... memories, a house, family... many things that were safe, or good, or at least familiar. You're not necessarily yearning for her, you're yearning for what she represents... home. Understand that, explain it to your lady, and drop it when you get back to her.
2006-07-25 13:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋