And if so....what was the reason for his lack of interest and what did you do about it???
2006-07-25 11:55:37 · 32 answers · asked by jewels 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not unattractive and I have never had this problem with other guys.
I have a suspicion about porn - but I have no way to be sure.
I have already asked and he denys that there is a problem.....
2006-07-25 12:01:46 · update #1
Yes, and I divorced him. He was cheating to fulfill his ego and need for admiration.
2006-07-25 12:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sueby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this was the case in my marriage. My ex was more interested in the porn images on the computer than being with me. I felt so unloved and sad all the time. Unfortunately, the marriage ended because of this. If you are not married to this man, RUN! Porn addiction is real and if he is not interested in sleeping with you now, he never will be. Run, sister. There are better things for you out there.
2006-07-25 12:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by Robin N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JESUS!
You know, you mention something like this and every idiot comes out of the woodwork telling you he's cheating, he addicted to porn and,,,,,,,,,,,leave him.
Got a problem?? WORK it out. If you've invested a considerable amount of time in the relationship, then work on it.
Has he had any medical problems lately? Perhaps he's unable to function at full capicity,, if that's so,,,would you leave him? If you answered yes, then by all means go. But if you care for the guy, sit him down and get to the basis of the problem, regardless of how embarrassing it may be for you or he.
There could a number of reasons that we all do not know about, the job is yours to find out and the both of yours to work on it.
Goodluck & Godspeed.....................
2006-07-25 12:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by TJ R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are with a man who usually enjoys sex and no longer does... it sounds like either a personal issue he has with you or maybe he has some self-esteem issues or either depressed. You need to communicate with him to see where his head is at. Once you open up and start talking about what is wrong, then you both can work on fixing it. To automatically assume that he is cheating is ridiculous. Most cheaters-if they are truly cheaters- will be with you while they are with someone else too so if he is not interested, there is a bigger problem.
2006-07-25 12:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I had a husband who got a little lazy about it for a spell, i told him i'm having sex tonight are you going to be there? and that pretty much took care of that. The only one that can really tell you whats up with him is him. Maybe he is just trying not to be pushy, or maybe he's afraid you will reject him, or maybe he has some sort of performance issue that he's uncomfortable with. Does he have no interest in anything sexual or is the line just at intercourse? Good luck.
2006-07-25 11:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it happens... Most of the time it probably "means" something, but every once in a while, it only means the guy has low libido. My fiancé is like that, but I take it as a blessing - there are so many things I would rather do before having sex all the time.
It's up to you to find out "what's up" with him; if it's highly important to you, but he can't live up to it, I'm afraid you'd have to start thinking of finding a different guy!
2006-07-25 12:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you find out that he has no interest in sex? did you ask him?
Why don't you do something different, hug him, kiss him over and over, in other words make the move.
Maybe you are acting like you to too good for anyone?
2006-07-25 13:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by timer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married to a man for 11 years now, whom also has no sex drive. Sucks huh? I have tried talking to him, he avoids talking about. Hurts my feelings, but he wont change. I will never understand
2006-07-25 14:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I... was that man!
Seriously I was dating this really nice girl but our pheromones didn't match or something because I swear that her skin smelt vaguely of rancid meat, but everyone else I asked said she smelt fine.
But I am an oddball - to say the least.
addendum: I am not in anyway suggesting that you smell of rotten meat.
2006-07-25 12:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Warrior Hamster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
going through it now. I'd love the answer to this one, it's a doozy. some days I think I wanna just jump off the bridge.
stress I think is the problem. but who knows anymore.
2006-07-25 12:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dated someone for six years that next to never had sex with me and i discovered he was addicted to porn. i'm very happily married to someone else now. address the situation and move on if you both can't come to a compromise.
2006-07-25 13:03:22 · answer #11 · answered by H F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋