We had a scare two monthes ago when she was late. We thought we didn't want a third for a while, but when we thought she was pregnant we kind of warmed to the idea. Now I've been thinking about it more and I really want another child.
2006-07-25 11:28:08 · 10 answers · asked by ovrwrkdlawyr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just so every one is aware: I do half the housework and was always there to take care of the kids when they were babies and I will be there if we have another one.
2006-07-25 12:42:51 · update #1
Talk with her about this. My husband wanted a third child as well, I didn't want to have another baby because I didn't feel that he helped out enough with the two children that we already had. We talked things out. He didn't know that I felt that way and now he helps a lot more, and guess what we have baby number three on the way.
2006-07-25 11:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by angel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be selfish, discuss it with her. Figure out first why it is you want another child. Then ask her why she does not want another child. Listen without judgment, and respect her position. After all, she does have to carry the baby, as well as stay home with it until it's old enough for day care. Maybe she's just over that. It's different when the decision is already made for you - as in the scare you had. But when you make a conscious decision, you have to know what motivates you. Whatever her reason, whatever your reason, communication is the key.
2006-07-25 11:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her how you feel. My husband and I came to an agreement on this same matter. We agreed one more child and then we are done. We are currently expecting, when this child is born I am going to have my tubes tied. We are both happy with the solution. I have 2 other children. After the second one I said I did not want any more. We had a long talk in which he revealed how he felt and I told him how I felt. We compromised and are both happy with it. Sit her down and discuss it. You will both feel better knowing how the other feels.
2006-07-25 11:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by neonate_mistress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two kids is a load of work on a woman's life and body. Leave her alone for a while and let her catch up on being something besides a baby machine, will ya? It's selfish for you to force this idea on her. It should be a mutual decision. If you want a life of resentment, just force her to get pregnant and that is what you will get.
2006-07-25 11:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling her is a start. I am still on the fence on whether or not I want another baby, I could go either way, but for sure if I thought hubby wanted another I would probably go for it.
2006-07-25 11:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by friend4u726 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it...tell her you want another child and prove to her you can afford it. Try talking to her about it over a romantic dinner or a night out just for the 2 of you.
2006-07-25 11:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you'll cary the child for nine months, give birth, breast feed, change diapers. be the stay home "mom", ext ext... of course there's swollen ankles, mood swings, cravings, wieght gain, acne, o.b. visits, walking like a penguin, and alot more that goes with having a baby. maybe she'll agree then. keep smiling.
2006-07-25 11:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by prettyinpink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know she needs "convincing"?
If she doesn't want another one, she will tell you, and you will pretty much have to go with it. But she may actually feel the same way you do. Ask her!
2006-07-25 11:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are great I have four. I wouldn't change that about my life but if she doesn't want to don't pressure her kids can sense stuff like that
2006-07-25 11:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by LJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit down with her and just tell her how u feel about havng a another child
2006-07-25 11:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋