I dont love him (he cheated..) i cant forgive him.. i cant forget i hate him i resent him..we are so different.. hes not what i need or want... i have goals he doesnt.. we are as different as water n oil..
then why when he tells me he will leave it hurts me so bad...?
i think i m crazy.. help...
2006-07-25 11:23:26 · 14 answers · asked by ce!y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he sais he will but doesnt .. i ask him to go..n i mean it when i say it
...but later its different..??
2006-07-25 11:36:50 · update #1
No you are not crazy. You are afraid to be alone. Tell him to get lost. You don't deserve to be treated like that. Send him packing and get out there and enjoy yourself. It may be hard at first but you will be much happier that you did. Good luck.
2006-07-25 11:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy...you are normal! When you've been in a relationship with someone and they end up hurting you, then your reaction isn't so unusual. Don't be so critical of yourself for having normal human emotions!! Since you realize that you are both so different, that he's not what you need or want, and that you have goals, just give yourself some time to feel the hurt/pain. Don't rush yourself. It will hurt if he leaves, but you have already given reasons why you think it isn't the right relationship for you. So, hang onto those reasons and use them to strengthen yourself when you are down. Try to spend time with friends and family. Try to do other things to take your mind off the situation. You will be more "yourself" again, but don't call yourself crazy, because you are not!! Good luck!!
2006-07-25 11:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not crazy your insecure and need some self esteem boost. You need to be away from this unhealthy situation. He knows you feel like you can't live without him and uses that to do whatever he wants. Move on and dont' let him use you or take advantage of you. A half person can't make a whole relationship. It will hurt for a while but you will survive. Rely on the poeple that love you. You'll be fine in the end. I promise. Good luck!
2006-07-25 11:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you!! Change is scary.....but it will be okay. You'll find yourself again. If he's a cheater let him go! no good can come from keeping him around. Being alone is no picnic but, it gets easier with time. I know I've been there. I left my husband when our daughter was 3 weeks old cause he was cheating on me and using drugs. I didn't want that in my life. At first I was so depressed, but then that passed and i was soooo glad i made that decision to leave.
2006-07-25 11:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by imagr00vychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r not crazy! U r only human! I've been through this before, and I'm not usually strong enough to walk away, so just let him go. I know it's hard, but if it's this bad, just let it go. I mean, if he can stay away from you and not try to get a hold of you, then maybe he didn't love you in the first place. I know it hurts , but hang in there, you deserve better than that!!!
2006-07-25 11:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of change: Fear of being alone: Simply fear of the unknown. That's why we have songs like Breaking up is hard to do. Try instead of Fearing the Unknown. Think about the things that could be better. Like your life. Why be Unhappy. Give yourself a chance at a New start. Be Strong and Walk tall.
2006-07-25 11:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy.You have a fear of being alone been there.But as long as you are afraid he will prey on that and use it against you.So go after your dreams and find you.I know it's hard to let go,but you have to or you will go crazy. Life is to short to be waiting for someone to get themselves together.If he loves you he will and if not let him go.Do what you need to do to get passed this.Each day will get easier and easier believe me.Keep your head up and move on and heal yourself don't allow him to keep you down.
2006-07-25 11:53:48 · answer #7 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are use to being with him ,it is some what of a comfort zone with him because you probably know each other very well. You need to move on forget comfort for a while and go find that tinglely newness feeling that you get all over when you are dating someone new that you know nothing about,
2006-07-25 11:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not crazy, you should let him leave and when he's gone it will hurt for awhile but the pain will begin to fade away believe me, just surround yourself with family and friends that will help a great deal.
2006-07-25 11:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mandy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back up stay calm u might have a stroke if u dont talk to him tell him how u feel every body isnt perfect if u want to keep him or leave him its up to u but the other girl wins she is a looser it will happen to her someday
2006-07-25 11:34:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋