What I don't understand is this....everytime I get a girlfriend I end up with obsessed psychos, that stalk me and don't want to leaveme alone. Like right now for example I'm going out with a beautiful girl...we'll call her destiny...I mean she is a dime piece, but she's to jealous. I tried breaking up with her three weeks ago because i couldn't take it anymore and she came into my house while i was at work and called the police saying i threaten to beat her. she told me if she ever sees me with another women she'll make my life a living hell. I called the cops but to no avail, she calls my job, shows up unanounce and sometimes sits on front of my house for long periods of time. I'm in desperate need of some good advice..PLEASE SOME ONE HELP!
2006-07-25 11:08:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I agree with everyone here! GET A RESTAINING ORDER. Go to the police department, file a report against her(make sure you tell them everything, next ask for an emergency order of protection and in 24 hours you'll get it. Don't hesitate do it now. And like the one guy said next she'll tell the cops you rapped her or something of that nature and if you live where I live...In Illinois... Your buns are toast. this is considered a womens state. Like I said hurry up and do it before she beats you yo it! good luck.
2006-07-25 11:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by R30695 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
The best you can do in your situation is to get a restraining order where she cannot call you and come within 500 yards of you.
That should do it!
She needs time to get over you and sometimes it hurts to do things like that to people you cared about before but she will be fine with some time and new love in her life.
2006-07-25 11:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by kinito_2000_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the real question here is 'how do you manage to keep attracting these women?'
You need to get a member of law enforcement/DA on your side with this. Try to video tape the loon and document as much crap as you can on her. The cops can help but you just have to give them some ammunition.
PS -- if she ever MAILS you a threatning letter you can take it directly to the local F.B.I. office (this is a federal offense and those boys don't play).
2006-07-25 11:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, I work in a police dept. We get calls like this all the time. The next step is she will be either sueing you, or claiming that you raped, beat, or stole from her, and with the courts in this country you will be in trouble. Don't screw around with this babe. Immediatly consult a local attorney, and file a restraining order at the very least.
2006-07-25 11:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by firestrike85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't ANYBODY believe in DIRECT COMMUNICATION anymore ?? (always its 'call in the authorities')
Have you discussed with her WHAT the misunderstading between you is ? She obviously has a different 'view' of your relationship to your view - do YOU know where the difference lies ? I suspect she gets mixed messages from you, and also that you are probably getting ego-off on this apparent power you have to 'make women go crazy' over you - i think its cos you can't communicate properly (and your /our current culture backs up this behaviour).
Humans, passion and 'love' - its complicated, always was ... face it
2006-07-25 11:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lalalahooah D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there before. Really there isn't much you can do, except stay clear of her and be firm in your decision. Maybe change your locks so she can't get into your house....you might even consider moving if she is totally nuts. She'll lose interest if you ignore her...she just wants attention.
2006-07-25 11:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your female friend quickly to be fiancee isn't gambling a long way with you, and therein lays the truly obstacle, now not the mum in any respect. OK so your woman says she knows her mom is somewhat loopy, but additionally this woman is jogging again among the 2 of you telling her mom approximately matters that occur among you and her, and that my buddy is utterly mistaken. Your woman is utilizing the affection and aid of her mom in opposition to you whilst it fits you, then boldly pretending her mom is the demon, which for sure she is, however how might her mom recognise you and he or she argued if the daughter didn't inform her within the first position? Its the lady you ought to paintings on now not the mum - even in marriage this woman will use her mom to shield her whilst its handy to the lady to end up her factor that you simply had been mistaken to argue together with her within the first position. Your each on your mid twenties so its now not like your a few 17 12 months ancient superstar struck teens anymore - the mum demands to step again, and the one approach as a way to occur is that if the lady grows up shuts her mouth and do not inform her mom what occurs among you. If you permit your woman maintain like this, wait until your married and feature youngsters, whilst anything is going mistaken she's going to move immediately again and inform Mommy, and God aid then you definately, whilst the mum buts in at the grounds she is protective her daughter and her grandchildren. You ought to take a seat down and feature a significant speak with this woman earlier than you get engaged, and inform her any further she is to appreciate that what is going on among you is among you 2 most effective, now not her mom. Its the lady giving the mum the ammunition and sure its due to the fact that it fits her to take action, this woman nonetheless likes the notion of being tied to her moms apron strings whilst it fits her. Sorry to be so blunt, however its precise - if matters do not difference and the lady do not supply you the appreciate that she must as a lady now entirely grown, then mark my phrases lamentably the whole thing I have mentioned to you'll come precise. I do not doubt for a minute the lady loves you, however its her gambling the 2 of you off in opposition to one an additional. As each a mom myself and now a grandmother, I regularly instructed myself and glued with it, that after my kids married I might under no circumstances intrude, that the one time I might, might be due to the fact that I noticed my daughter with bruises given by means of the husband, or had been a daughter in regulation included in bruises, sure I might move up in opposition to my possess son had been that the case. Other than that marriage is approximately the union of 2 grown up adults utterly dedicated to 1 an additional, and all marriages have their highs and lows. As a guardian you have got to step again and allow them to get on with it, except there's violence inside their marriage.
2016-08-28 18:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by peentu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like hell... sorry...
get a restraining order against her.
and try to break up with them more gently, talk to them and make them understand why u`re not right 4 each other... if u`re already doing that u`re 1 unlucky man.
good luck!
2006-07-25 11:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ot! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that sucks. eventually people calm down and she will end up hurt and will just think that you arent worth it. in the meantime. stay low. dont go home if you are able to make that decision.
no contact goes a long way.
2006-07-25 11:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by This is harder than it looks? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can get an injunction, or a peace bond, against anybody who is stalking you or harrassing you. Check with your states attorney office.
2006-07-25 11:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋