A guy can gives compliments, show affection, and show interest in a girl, but would a girl be able to know when the guy is sincerely interested in her versus when the guy only wants the booty?
How would a girl be able to tell the difference when a guy does the same thing when he's sincerely interested as when he's just lusting after her body?
2006-07-25 11:03:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Guys don't normally do the same thing whether they're interested or not. They act different depending whether they really like her or just like her body. Not all girls can tell because some girls are just oblivious or just want the guy to like her so bad that she feels like he does. And some guys are so good at acting, it's hard to tell.
But typically, if they guy is just dating her for her body or for sex, he's less likely to try and make the relationship work. Like he won't call as often as he should, he won't do the sweet things that many other guys do (like notes, flowers, etc). If she says that she heard he cheated on her, he'd just say something "come on baby! You know I'd never do anything like that!". But if he really liked her, he'd get genuinely upset and worry that the relationship was going to end. He might cry (depending what kind of guy he is), he'd try to find the people that said it and set the record straight, or even just try and sit down and talk it out with the girl. The non-interested guy wouldn't really bother because he would rely on the girl liking him and let her do the work.
There's also other little ways to tell. Like if he's really interested, he'll listen as she talks and respond to her; he would look into her eyes or at least look in her general direction; he would touch her back, face or hair as they sat near one another; he wouldn't try to pressure her into doing anything she didn't feel comfortable doing; etc. Another interesting way to tell is if they're sitting next to one another, he'll turn and his knees will point towards her because it shows his focus, but if he's facing away or sitting facing away, he's not interested (read that in a Seventeen magazine or something a couple years ago. His pupils will also get a little bit bigger when he looks at her, but that's hard to tell sometimes).
See how he acts with her around his friends as well as her friends. If he's around his friends, he'll pay more attention to them and not really interact with her. He also might forget to introduce her, or just introduces her by name and not by title (like, "Hey guys, this is Jess" instead of "Hey guys, this is my girlfriend Jess"). He probably won't put his arms around her or kiss her with them around. If they're with her friends, he'll probably keep saying he wants to leave or walk around the mall on his own instead of with them, and stuff like that. If he was really interested in her, he'd make an effort to get to know all of her friends (even her guy friends) and spend time with them willingly.
There's probably more ways to tell, but the easiest way is to probably just ask him flat out. Like "Do you really like me and want to be with me or do you just think I have a good body?" If he's just interested in your body, he'd probably be OVERassuring and sound suspicious. If he tells you things over and over, he might be just there for the body, but if he tells you things not related to your looks (like that you're funny, and his family loves you, and you have gorgeous eyes, and you're really smart and stuff like that) then he's probably a genuine guy that likes you for you. Just keep your eyes open ayway, just in case.
Guys that are really interested in their girl would act very different around her than he would around other girls too. So watch him around his female friends. If he likes you for you, no matter how flirty he normally is, you'll still be the only one he touches in that special way. If he hugs you the same way he hugs them, you might want to have your doubts. But if he just gives them quick one-arm hugs, but really holds you tight and keeps his arms around you for an extra couple seconds, then he's interested for real. You guys should be able to talk about ANYTHING. Even politics and religion, the two touchiest topics. And he should be able to respect any belief you have and suppor you 100% even if it's not the same as his own beliefs. If he wasn't really interested in you for your personality, then he wouldn't really care what you believed and would fight with you and get really angry about it.
Another good way to tell is those three words, "I love you". Listen to how he says them and try to see if he really means it. If it's just like "Love ya" or something and you always have to say the words first, then maybe you should question him. But if he sounds completely comfortable saying "I love you" first, then he probably means it. Guys typically don't throw those words around easily. They mean a lot to guys and they know what kind of emotional commitment that means. So see if he can look you in the eyes and tell you he loves you without blinking, turning away, or sounding like he's forcing it, then you got yourself a real guy.
Nonetheless, ALWAYS go with your instinct. A girl's intuition can be pretty powerful. So if you have that deep-down gut feeling that something's not right, it's probably not.
Good luck!!!
2006-07-25 11:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by chica_zarca 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is no doubt that a girl CAN tell when he's just after the booty. Problem is that many, many girls don't see the signs that he's just after the booty(thjatb), don't want to see the signs thjatb, ignore the signs thjatb, and otherwise convince themselves he's "truly, sincerely interested in them." We all have an amazing ability to see only what we want to see.
Don't get me wrong. I answered your question. There are plenty of guys who have the same amazing ability to ignore facts that are right in front of their faces about what the girl is after too. Unfortunately, I've been included in that group before.
2006-07-25 11:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is constantly trying to initiate physical contact and does not actually have conversations about anything other than flirtateous meanderings, I think you can consider that to be a booty hunt. To show true interest, you have to talk, laugh, debate, etc, without all the pressure of lust. If he calls you on the phone and just flirts or only talks about himself, then have some doubts about him.
2006-07-25 11:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl can know when a guy is sincere or not with her intuition. However, some girls haven't got a clue and can be naive. Hence, could not tell wether guy is just acting up to have nookie. I have a friend who was so oblivious about it that she ended up being ignored by the guy after he got what he wanted from her.
2006-07-25 11:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl decided to lay off on giving her man sex for awhile & see how he reacts to it. If he reacts badly as in getting upset & beocming forceful, then you'll know he only wants booty. But if he's understanding and soft hearted about it...you know he's respecting you. I guess it really depends on the guy's reaction.
2006-07-25 11:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just listing to him talk does he keeps buying u drinks pick up lines could be indication that he wants u for your body look the only way u find out is by talking there no other way try 2 break him see what kind of man he really is
2006-07-25 11:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by activision 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah cuz if he keeps messin with yo booty more than he should and not payin that much attention to you then yeah you can tell
2006-07-25 11:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by candygirlrw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We know you can't hide it cause guys act different and that is why they get caught.
2006-07-25 11:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by peluchitagonzalez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can.
2006-07-25 11:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be an idiot. Of course they can tell.
2006-07-25 11:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋