If you where stuck being with someone you really don't love, but don't want to hurt their feelings by just breaking up, what are other ways to go about it .....that will not hurt them....and that they wont threaten to kill themselves?
2006-07-25 10:57:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Tell her straght up! That relationship is not healthy!
2006-07-25 11:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by R30695 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Trust me there is no way to get around hurting someone when you break up with them, even if they aren't suicidal. That's just a fact of life and it hurts. Hell, it hurts even if you know it's the right thing to do.
If a person is suicidal you aren't to blame for their issue - they need counseling. If you stay with someone because you're afraid they might kill themselves if you leave what is that doing to you? You have a right to be happy and not held hostage. Try to get them into counseling. Be honest with the person - tell them you care but you aren't in love....
2006-07-25 18:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone is doing that to you, then you're in an abusive relationship. They are using emotional blackmail to make you stay with them. What it comes down to is this: if you truely want out, you cannot control what they will do. Try to help them get counselling, but they have to put in the effort. People will do what they do, you can't change that. Your life is yours, not theirs to control. Remember that. Be strong. If you have enough strength and will to help them, then fine but if its hurting you then you need to break it off quickly. No mercy and no second chances. They are not going to change no matter what they say unless you know for a fact that they are getting help.
2006-07-25 18:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Naomi P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U're being uuuuuuuused. I have been there. They are not going to kill themselves because you leave them. Can't you talk to one of their relatives who can handle them when they're trying to get over you? You'd be doing them a favor darling by leaving if you don't love them: you're NOT doing them a favor by staying. Say "buh bye" and be nice but firm about it: no wishy washy back and forth make up to break up stuff. Wish them well and don't feel that you need to check in with them either.
2006-07-25 18:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly, you just need to be honest. They will be hurt, yes, but will learn to get over it. Very few people actually kill themselves over someone they love. You can't be in a relationship that you're not happy with.
2006-07-25 18:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think there is way to dump some one without hurting their feeling. But look, You cant waste your time with some one your are not happy with. As far as them hurting them selves.. well hun, you can't control what ppl do..you have a responsibility to YOUR self to make YOUR self happy not every one else.. so move on!!!
2006-07-25 18:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you are fond of them and care about them but want to let them go to find somebody else who will truly love them and that you can't be that person. You mustn't give in to emotional blackmail as this is what is happening leave call one of their family/friends to be there for them should they follow it through and realise that it not your fault as they clearly have issues.stay if you want to hurt them more they will know you don't truly love them and will feel it
2006-07-25 18:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has the person threatened suicide in the past?
If so, you might want to see a counselor to find out
how to go about this.
2006-07-25 18:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ivy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just kill them, that'll get you out of the situation cleanly.
2006-07-25 18:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you dont want to be with you I know that we have been together 4 a long time
2006-07-25 18:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by kat B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋