HELP! I need major help!!!?

Question

I'm Soon-2-B 21 in Sept. and I've been Homeless (Living in my Boyfriend's Van) now for 2 1/2 months, I was recently fired from my job, and as life seems to get better, it gets worse too! I don't know what I should do.. I tried going home to family, but they're way over-protective over me, and try to control my life too much, and I only know my BF in this area, what should I do?!!?? Getting sick and tired of all the hurt and bs that I'm having to go through!!

Okay, well one I use the libraries internet that is provided to my community for free with card. (The library is my only entertainment, that doesn't cost anything)Secondly, I was fired as told me because I am homeless and they don't want that to get out and affect their business. Thirdly, my BF is in so much debt, and hardships himself, just as me and besides he lives with me in the van. But I hate living life like this, I apply and continue to apply for work, (my BF is working already but owes child support, and other debts, that he's normally left with like 100 bucks if that)and I try to conserve gas too, but today I couldn't take just doing nothing, and had to come seek advice for others..

Answer 1

go to your family stay there until you find a job and have enough money to move out and live on your own if they protect you it is because they care and maybe they see things that you don't I don't mean to be rude but you probably haven't made the best decisions if you're living in a van...try to listen to what they say and tell them what you want and what your plans for the future are let them know that you appreciate them worrying for you and helping you that you value their opinion but that you are an adult and need to take control of your life that you aren't perfect and will make mistakes but that you need to learn to be independent and fix your own problems ...if you show them with your actions that you are mature and can make your own decisions they will start to trust you more and they will try to support you instead of controlling you

Answer 2

Let's look at the bigger picture here. You are homeless by choice. You can live with your parents but you say they are over protective and try to control your life, I wonder to what extent. The boyfriend sounds like he has an abundance of issues and can't be any help to you right now. You probably need to go back home. I'm sure your parents don't have a problem with you going to school or getting a job do they? They are probably looking at this boyfriend and thinking that he is bad news. How much older is he then you? Do you have any other relatives besides your Mom and Dad that you could stay with for awhile until you get yourself on your feet? There are community organizations that help homeless people, seek them out in your area. I hate to think that you're introduction to adulthood is being homeless and living in a van when you don't have to.

Answer 3

Jesus can help you.
Give your life to Him, repent of your sins and surrender to His will.
"Cast your burden on the LORD, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved." Psalm 55:22
"As for me, I will call upon God, and the LORD shall save me." 55:16

He loves us all and wants so much to help us!

I would suggest going home to your family.
Perhaps they're just over-protective because they love you so much. Even if they are, is that bad? They were probably protecting you from stuff like the things that have already happened. Is that such a bad thing?

Of course I don't know your family and I don't know you.
But that's my opinion.
God put our parents over us to help us, not to hinder us.
Unless, of course, the parents are terrible abusers or addicts or something.. in this case I say people are better off without them. But if they just want to protect you, and they still love you, I don't see why not go back to them.
If they won't take you back remember, "when my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take care of me." Psalm 27:10


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Answer 4

Depends on how much you trust your boyfriend, and how much you feel he is willing to support you up to the time you can begin to earn again.

If you don't trust him to do that without hurting you emotionally through what he says and does to you, you should consider going home, because even though they might be overprotective, and try to control what you do while you are there, they will give you the opportunity to regroup and get strong so that you can leave when you are ready to build a new life for yourself - on your terms.

Answer 5

go back home, even though it is hard, you have a place to live while you sort things through. If your parent don't like your boyfriend, then give him a break until you get yourself together. Go back to school and get a degree or get a full time job doing something you like. I really believe your parents would be glad to take you back as long as you are clean- no drugs, no stealing, no alcohol or in moderation.

Answer 6

This is what you should do.
Go home to your family until you get another job and save some money, then move into an apartment on your own or with a female roommate.

Answer 7

go home but tell your family calmly this is how you feel and that you want them to let you make mistakes and become independant in time that you love them but need space also. Then start the process off look for a flat maybe with your bf?hope this helps?

Answer 8

department of social and rehabilitive services, or in some places department of families and children----you can get state assistance (food, cash and insurance) while they help you find a job, and also find a shelter for you to stay in---however i would go back to family--it's temporary and would get you out of the rut....if you dont have the means, let me know the state and county you live in and i will get the info for you----wait a minute if you live in a van how are you online?

Answer 9

Is your boyfriend a crappy influence on you? Is your work ethic pathetic? Are you worth hiring? Are you worth being friends with?

My guess is your a great person, but you haven't been showing that to anyone. Friends make every day worthwhile, and being productive and feeling important at work is satisfying, not to mention money-making. Get a job. Make friends. Make rent!

Work on yourself and your life will work out.

Answer 10

How are you on the internet if you are living in a van?
Go home and start over if you are serious.