I am in the mindset that marriage is a good way to end a relationship. I have not seen anyone in my close family be married for more then 5 years, this is where my jaded opinion stems from Im sure. I think that the whole wedding ordeal is all for show, as is the ring,dress,flowers. I have been with my life partner for 9 years and he did propose. Is there anyone else that shares the opinion that marriage is a great way to end a relationship?
2006-07-25 10:21:38 · 14 answers · asked by migurl48706 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly I feel the same way. Besides the legal part of insurance and things of that nature...to me there is no reason to ruin a relationship with the burden that seems to come along with "marriage". I dated my "first" husband for 6 years. We were very happy together and hardly ever fought. We even lived together for a while and did great. Then, we got married and within 18 months we were divorced. To me the phenomenon of the evil marriage license is true. Once we got that dreaded thing it went down hill from there. Then I paid thousands of dollars to have someone to end something you should be able to end yourself.
2006-07-25 10:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 13⤋
I think you just need to wait for the right person. Marriage is great, and not all marriages end in divorce or end a relationship. If you're not happy, maybe you need to let your partner go. I do agree that the wedding ordeal is a show, for your guests. That's why I opted for a small ceremony in a cabin in Tennessee, it's more romantic. Good luck.
2006-07-25 13:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lovin' Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage sucks. My husband turned into a verbally abusive drunk after we got married. He picks fights and says horrible mean things. I am now resentful for the time I've wasted hoping he'll get his head out of his *** and realize what he's turned into. I've been thru so much crap that i hate him. I look at him and imagine his head exploding. He has no respect for women, doesn't help with the house work. I have done all the improvements on our home, yeah i did the sheet rocking!! He wants to have kids but is such a jerk.....I don't want to be tied to him for the rest of my life. I have come to the realization that divorce costs so much because it's worth it. Marriage takes away a persons Independence. You can no longer wear what you want. Listen to whatever kind of music YOU like. Etc. It's sad cause I'd always thought well of marriage, but now I'm older and wiser. I hear the same complaints from my friends and family too.
2006-07-25 11:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by imagr00vychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't. I have been married for 8 years (dated for 5 years before that), and couldn't be happier. There are times that things can get very stressful and times that you aren't happy, but that's true with anything. I mean some days my kids do things that don't make me happy, but I've never thought of leaving them so why would I see divorcing my husband as an option in my life?
You can't live with someone your whole life and never have difficult times. You just deal with them and get through them. I think there are a lot of people who don't understand that. But to me, divorce is not an option, so I look at any problem with the mindset of "how can we resolve this?" or "what are the possible solutions?".
I've seen a lot of people get divorced for various reasons as well. And I have a great sense of pride in the fact that I chose a wonderful spouse who I truly knew I wanted to commit to. I think far too many people enter into a marriage too lightly. I don't even know if they have thought it through. Whatever you want in life - kids, no kids, career, etc. - you have to find someone who can fit into that vision. Good luck.
2006-07-25 10:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a life time commitment which some people are not willing to make and or live up to and take the easy way out (divorce). The difference between a marriage and a long term relationship is that, when a marriage ends its called a divorce and then a relationship ends its a break-up.
2006-07-25 10:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by spidermaniii_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 10 years. Many of those unhappy b/c we did not know who each other really were. I beleve in marriage. If you have been together for 9 years, you are great candidates to make it a long time in marriage (assuming you are HAPPY now!) I am a little mythed that the female does not want to be married. i am not trying to be sexist, it is just that where i am from women run to marriage and men away.
2006-07-25 10:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by Shybruh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - there are people with the last name "Crock" - so - I do guess they would qualify. Marriage today is probably a crock as no one really commits to anything or anyone if there is an easy out for the first time things don't go your way. When it became me and mine vs. ours and need and deserve vs. earn - things went to pot - shi-t pot - not crock pot. Marriage is a complete waste of time for the "selfish" generation.
2006-07-25 10:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
End a relationship? Marriage is the first step to an even closer relationship with the one you are with.
2006-07-25 10:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sonico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea I think its a crock.. Matter of fact. I wish that someone would request that all marriage license should be renewed at 5 years. That way you can get out of one.
2006-07-25 10:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already have your mind made up. I have to disaggree with you. Marriage is great and if you should ever have children of your own you'll understand.
2006-07-25 10:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a very beautiful and special thing for people who are serious about commitment and know the true meaning of it...
2006-07-25 10:29:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋