how to get over the death of the love of your life..?

Question

hi, the love of my life just passed away july 23rd, and i want to end my life. i just cannot live without him, im only 14 and he is 15 and hes the only guy that has ever loved me , and words cant even describe what i felt for him, i met him online but trust me he was real... i never got to meet him or look into his beautiful hazel eyes and tell him i love him in person and that breaks my heart... im never gonna get over him and the only way i see to that is to end my own life and to join him in heaven... please help

also this year ive been through my parent,s divorce, and ive been in and out of depression ALOT so this is just the cherry to the cake basically so thats why i want to die so bad..and ive known him for over a year and ive loved him with all my heart the whole time and i wanted to marry him and spend the rest of my life with him

Answer 1

If you end your life, you will not see him in heaven. My high school sweetheart passed away, I thought I was going to spend my whole life with him. Then it all changed. I didn't want and thought I wouldn't meet someone ever again. Then I met my Husband. Life has a way of making you a stronger person and you CAN go on.

Answer 2

I'm not gonna give you a "Jesus" answer, and I'm not going to pretend that you don't really feel what you say you do. I'm sure you cared about him deeply.

But the other posters are right about one thing. You absolutely will heal. You never really "get over" something like this (whatever the heck THAT means), but you do learn to deal. I PROMISE!! As you get older, you will lean new tools to help you cope when tradgedy strikes (and it will).

You're a human being, which means that you are an heir to your share of joy as well as misery. It's unfortunate that you are having to experience this much misery when your are still so young, but I can guarantee that there are others your age who have ALSO felt what you're feeling, and come through it all okay. If they can do it, then so can you!

Remember to take comfort where you can, trust the people who are closest to you, and believe that the pain WILL subside. It may take a while, but I swear it's true! I might not have believed that when I was 14, but I do now! You're stronger than you think you are, and you can get through it. Getting some counseling might be a pretty good idea, and under the circumstances, that's the first thing I would recommend.

Hope never dies. Your future will still have plenty of happiness in it and that's no lie, so give it a chance.

Answer 3

Please don't take your own life. It isn't fair to the rest of you family and friends. I know that the death of someone that you loved is really hard, but there will be others. Meeting someone online and then meeting someone in person are two totally different things. Trust me, a love is not a reason to end you life. I mean that you are still young and that if you give things time then you might feel different. Don't take this the wrong way, but sometimes, people online aren't who they say they are. Please. try to get some counseling. Tell your parents how you feel and tell your friends. I know that you feel like you can't move on, but you can. When ever you get down on yourself about his death, think of all the wonderful things that you and him ever did online.
Also, to help you say goodbye, write him a letter and send it to him if you have his address. Or you could place it somewhere where he liked to spend his time. Always know that there is a solution to everything and taking your life is not a solution. Understand.

Stand strong and I feel for your pain.

Answer 4

If you believe in God then you know ending your life is a sin.And it would be a shame!!!The pain you feel,your family would feel if you ended your life.When I think about the murder of my 15 year old daughter back in 2000.It makes me cry. I think of all the what ifs till I'm sick with grief.I have learned to not think of if's why's and whats.Its hurtful.It is sad to say this but the pain gets easier as time goes on .There are times I miss her so much and there are days I cant remember some of the stuff she use to do.If she had not left behind a 5 month old little baby boy,I would be lost.I have her son who reminds me of her.I am mom and dad to him.I would give almost anything to have my daughter back.Don't do that to your parents.You said you never met him.You are young and your Mr.right is still waiting.Hang in there everything works out!

Answer 5

Oh honey, you can't begin to know who the love of your life is when your life still has a LONG way to go.

This hurts, it is a part of young love. It happens. But keep in mind you never even saw this person in real life. What you may think is love, may have been merely infatuation.

If you really feel that ending your life would make it better, it won't. In fact that just opens up more hurt for those around you. I seriously doubt if he really loved you, that is what he would want you to do. Get some counseling.

Answer 6

Don't take this the wrong way, but how do you know he is dead if you never met him? How did you find out? Who told you? This is very important.

In the mean time, it is very hard to be rational at a time like this. Your feelings are real, no matter how serious other people may view your relationship. But think about your love and what he would want you to do? Please don't kill yourself. He may have been the first to love you, but I promise you he won't be the last. Seek the comfort and love from those around you. It will hurt a lot right now, but eventually it will get better. Just make sure to talk to people and get your feelings out. Don't bottle them up inside.

Answer 7

To get over the death of the love of your life is not easy. But you have to live each day and go on with life. Your love wouldn't want you to end your life because of him. He would want you to go on. I know it sounds really impossible to do right now but it is very possible. You must have a few memories so think about them and just take it slow. Find a really good friend and talk about how you feel. Crying helps. Believe me you will slowly feel better. It will take time but I know you will survive.

Answer 8

My condolences, first off, you have to know that he would want you to live. he also wants you to do good things. Think of the memories you and him created together. No one can ever take that from you.

Ending your life is not the way to go. He is up there looking over you, he doesnt want you to do that. It is not fair for you or him to think that way. You probably have heard this before, but your young, life is a beautiful thing. you will be just fine.

Answer 9

I am sorry. i understand that you are hurting but believe me that time is your best friend. i lost a loved one too at that age and he and i actually met and knew each other. i still think of him sometimes but it does not hurt. life really goes on and you will experience that there are more nice things you can do with your time. go out, meet with friends, do you go to school? put some extra effort in and remember that if he liked you the way you liked him, he wouldlike you to enjoy your life to the fullest. i pray for you. do not and your life. there are still so many beauiful things you can do.

Answer 10

I am sorry for your loss. Death is very hard to understand and it's hard to cope sometimes when you've lost someone you care about. It's very important to speak to people and let them know how you are feeling, especially at this time. You should speak to your parents or an adult that you trust, or maybe even look into getting some grief counseling.