How am I supposed to act?

Question

I'm in my late 20's and at the point where I am wanting to settle down. I met this guy less then a month ago, and we really hit it off and want the same things in life, and we have this real connection. The part that frightens me now is that I KNOW I am falling in love, and I am so paranoid about scaring him away. When I talk to him, my hear skips a bit, and I am nervous over the phone cuz I just want to see him so bad. When we are together, time flies and it is the best feeling in the world. How do I keep this feelings in check?

Answer 1

It sounds like you are more in the "serious like" stage. The butterflies, the cant take that smile off your face, the tingles that go up your spine when you see his name on caller id, all those are part of the "i really like you alot" (and you are really, sexy & hot) stage but you aren't yet to the "I love you" stage.
The "I love you" stage consists of, "ughh - you left your smelly socks all over the house and I'm picking them up for you again, but I still love you anyway"; "you spent how much on that baseball game without asking me???!!, okay i forgive you and still love you"; "your working late and can't make our date again??!!, we'll reschedule for next week "yeah, love you too hon".
Enjoy the wonderful stage of romance you are in but dont confuse it with love.
Love has to grow and be tested through many failures, disagreements, & disappointments. When you can still look at him the same way you do now after you've experienced a few bumps in the road (and a few huge pot holes), then when you say "I love you" it has substance and meaning beyond those butterflies.
Best of luck

Answer 2

So the love bug has taken a hunk instead just a bite. Congratulations, you are in love. Why do you want to keep your feelings in check? Do you think he is going to run? Don't you have some sense of how he feels towards you? Are you the one chasing him? Does he call? Does he want to spend time with you? Does he do the asking? Or do you do it? If you are the pursurer, then you may scare him? Laughing tell him you don't want to scare him, but you just love spending time with him-and see what his reaction is...maybe he's scared of running you off.
Love is a scary business, and he may have been burned before, and wants to move slow..I sure hope it's the true love everyone deserves for you both! God bless us all.........

Answer 3

It may be a bit soon, after only a month to spill all your deep held feelings on to him. Men aren't as in tune with their emotions as women are.
And you are right, you could scare the hell out of him, if he isn't a the same level emotionally as you are now. That's not to say he won't be, sometime, but perhaps not right now.
So do spend as much time with him as you can, but don't invade his space too much. Slow and steady is the course to take.
Listen to what he says, and how he acts.pick up your clues from him, as to how he feels.
Don't hide all your feelings, you would be lying to him, and to yourself. However, you just don't have to dump it all over him. It's as if you were in a race, and you are miles ahead of him, just now. So slow down and let him catch up. That way, you both reach the finish line at the same time.

Answer 4

I think you may be confusing love with lust. You're still in the beginning part of the relationship, where everything is fresh and new and perfect. I would suggest waiting a few more months before telling him how you feel. This way, you will get a chance to know the real him, and to make sure you still feel the same way. Plus, it also gives him a chance to tell you if he feels the same way about you.

Answer 5

Why so nervous? Relax and believe in fate. Dating is supposed to be light & fun!

If you simply take things as they come, and stop worring so much about the future, then you will probably make your relationship better because you will become the type of girl that guys like to be around.

In short, if you relax, and don't take anything too seriously, then you are more likely to get what you want.

Believe that no matter what happens between the two of you, the universe (and your life) will turn out the way that God intended it to be.

Answer 6

Why keep your feeling in check...It is important that one does not accept another just because they are wanting to settle down but this person seems to have proved himself to be genuine and wants the same thing out of life that you do...I think you be the judge of your compatibility to see how long this feeling will last...but don't hold back..enjoy life to its fullest.

Answer 7

Don't keep them in check. If you're starting a relationship with someone you like and who obviously likes you, why keep your feelings in check? Being dishonest is no way to start a relationship. To thine own self be true. If you're a person that easily falls in love, then be that person. Try opening up to him. I'll bet you'll be suprised.

Answer 8

You could try going with your feelings/sharing your feelings about him, with him>>> just a tiny little bit at a time>>> see if it scares him away... & if it does, then he's probably not the one for you.

Answer 9

you're 22. a woman. Get real. You get along with her and he or she and your Dad are happy?...super!!! your loved ones is fortunate to have her. does not you anticipate your dad to stand by using you in case you have been to be in a solid dating with somebody you like and treats you nicely...despite if he became 50?- get excitement from your friendship and only understand that your dad would desire to have solid style.

Answer 10

You should not keep your feelings in check. You need to know how he feels. If you keep feeling more than he does, you will end up hurt and confused in the end.