Is suicide really that bad?

Question

People say to live for my kids but I always cry and am lonely and depressed in front of them so what will be the difference if i am dead, either way they are having some type of ill affects. I am in grad school right now, my marraige is on the rocks, (my husband just steps over me and brushes me off when I talk of suicide but I am at the point where I will never tell him or anyone else when it is time to do it I will just go peacefully.) we are in financial trouble and life just isnt in my opinion worth living.

Answer 1

You have many problems -- but the fact is that suicide is not the answer.

You mention your children. Suicide may seem to be something that is good for you -- although I don't agree. But think about how selfish it is to leave your children behind.

You need to realize that God has entrusted you with those children and they need you.

If you won't keep yourself alive for your own reasons, keep yourself alive for them.

Get some help. Thoughts of suicide are not normal. Get professional help in the form of doctors and counselors. Get on medication so you aren't so depressed.

You could have a chemical imbalance going on right that has you depressedand feeling this way. Put things in their proper perspective and get help. You won't feel this way anymore with help.

Think of the children who God gave you.

Now call 1-800-suicide -- and get help.

Answer 2

Suicide is not the answer. I am going to plead with you. How many things are out there to live for there is so much happiness that you can have and will have if you take a look around. Your children will be drastically affected. How would you feel if your idol went away? Committing suicide does not just hurt you but it hurts all those you know in a way very discrete. Your husband and you should consider going to a counselor. If you are in a financial pinch I would advise not just sitting down and talking to him. I would advise gathering your kids and your husband. Talk about what is making you sad and find a way to be happy again. Try and find unity with your loved ones and Friends. Go out into the world and find other people and learn about them. So please in the name of all that is good and sacred do not take your own life.

Answer 3

Yes, suicide is really that bad. I know a few people who killed themselves, and to this day I can give you specific details of who, what, and how. It hurts the people you love FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES -- wondering every single day if there was something, anything, they could have done to stop you... if somehow they could have said or done something that would have helped.

especially if you have kids -- I can't even imagine the pain it would cause to them. You would literally destroy them forever. Please don't do it....

Here's a better idea: get some counseling. go to your doctor and get treatment for your depression. if school is the problem, then quit. you can ALWAYS go back, but getting back to who you are is MUCH more important. finally, talk to your husband. maybe he doesn't think you're serious... and maybe he's a jerk and you should leave him and move on.

Killing yourself won't solve any of the problems, it will just make them that much worse for those around you. As a mother, just the idea of those little faces filled with tears at the thought that Mommy left them ON PURPOSE would be enough to stop me from even thinking about it.

Things might seem bad right now, but if you work through each problem one at a time you'll get through to the other side.

Blessings and Hugs....

good luck!

Answer 4

How about you and your children go away somewhere to stay for a while.......take a trip somewhere fun......Just leave your husband behind and take the kids out for fun........

Concentrate on you and the children and dont let your husband be a factor........if he wants to be he will make it known and you can take the steps necessary toward rebuilding your life..........If he doesnt well then you have children and a life of your own to worry about........if you're in grad school you're no dummy so you know whats good for you.........

I know its always easier said than done but you cant sacrifice your life for someone who apparently could care less one way or another...........You need some self esteem..........You need to believe in you and LESS in him........He's not a man..........maybe he needs a wake up call ..........

I wish the best to you and I pray you do not commit suicide........trust me I understand........but in the game of life this is just one roll.........there will many others to follow and it has to get better one day..............

Please dont do it..........You are worth so much more and deserve so much more.........Dont let your children see you down so much .........maybe seek single counseling to help you get some things off your chest if only temporarily its a start.........

Suicide is not the answer..........you have much to live for .......and it all starts with YOU.......not anyone else............

Answer 5

Dear Lady,
The answers you need will not be found on these web pages. You need somebody to talk to, and soon. Many people are depressed. In today's lifestyles, there is so much pressure to have things that you need and things that you don't need.

In the past I was depressed until I found that as soon as I asked myself what was important and then concentrated on what was important, I felt better. It could start for you by starting a short "To-Do" list, and work on that list.

I'm no counselor but if you wanted to e-mail me, I'd do what I can to help you. Just remember, life is a battle, you have to decide what's important, then give effort in that direction. Or, you can give up and commit suicide. Given these options, I think living is the best choice.

TX Guy

Answer 6

suicide is the ulitamte answer to everything, and something i consider every other day. you think about it because you cannot see a reason for living, i think about it cos i cant see why the world (or anyone in it) will benefit from my existence. i dotn think suicide is really that bad, i think (obviously) its a lot worse for the people left behind. but if they understood the reason why u did it, they wouldnt think badly of u. sometimes there isnt any other way out of the situation, and its only other people who feel the same as u do that can understand how ur feeling. if u wanna talk some more, i can be found at [e-mail]

Answer 7

Hi Suicide really is bad, you have so much to live for!!!
You should go to your Dr immediately, you probably have depression which is treatable with counselling and medication!
Things could definitely be worse, just think of what you have to live for your beautiful children. I have been through depression and anxiety and it is the worst feeling ever, no one know what you are going Thur unless they have been in your shoes!! Some things that help for me was to make a list of all the things that you are eg a great mother, a skier etc, Go to support groups with people who are going Thur the same thing as you are, it a way to meet people who you can relate to!! Honey you have to thing of your kids if anything, you depression maybe affecting them,but just think of what it would do to them if their mother committed suicide!!
Remember you are not alone, there is help and treatment!!!
I know how if feels to lose hope, but things will get better!!!
If you are that bad with the thought of suicide, you should go to the hospital!!!
Just think of all the people that love you and need you, you may have forgotten, but I'm sure you have lots of friends and family that love you and need you to be here!!!
Please go get help if not for anyone else but yourself!!!!!

Answer 8

Yes, it is.

It is not reversible and you have no idea what is in store for you in the future should you choose to live. It could be wonderful.

You leave your kids motherless, and they love you very much I'm sure. Imagine the hurt they'd go through without you, all because you want out.

Please contact a counselor. It's just a phase right now...I know it's tough, but it WILL get better.

Answer 9

I think that you need some help. You need to learn that someone will care if you commit suicide even if you do not think so. Committing suicide will just tare your family part. You have tot think about the life that your kids will have if you are no longer in their life. It will be bad for everyone. Hope you figure out your problems.
Stay positive and everything will be okay.

Answer 10

why don't you even care about your kids ? i am sorry i know it's really bad for the trouble you are in right now. but you are the one that give them life you have duty , mother responsibility, what did they do wrong to deserve something like this ?

you don't even love your self ,think about it if you die you just die and your kids have no mother with them , and the problems still there they might have some type of ill effects. but what do ppl really want is love what make ppl get through all problem is love .
kids love you they need you they give you power to do anything and if you give them love make them feel warm i belive they will grow up buatifully . if everything make you have no more love left think about love that your kids give you