I am 32. After a couple of years having a rocky marriage, at the beginning of the year I moved out and into an apartment with a 30 year-old guy from work. We both worked 3rd shift. My 14 year-old daughter stayed the night with me on my nights off. This guy from work was sleeping with me, his ex-girlfriend, & my daughter. He convinced her they were in love and even took her virginity. It took a month before my daughter told me. I immediately stopped the involvement with this guy. He told me that if the authorities ever found out about what he did, he would run. I absolutely believed him because he had no reason to stay in the state. I continued to live in the apt. and make him think everything was fine ONLY so he wouldn't run before being charged.This guy was charged w/ 2nd degree rape. After only 2 months of being gone, I moved back home. My husband, daughter & I see a counselor.Yes, my husband beat him up! Was sticking around until he got charged the right thing to do?
2006-07-25 09:31:39 · 13 answers · asked by Feisty Poppet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok, first of all I have read everyone's answer to this question and those that have put you down for doing what you did have never been in that situation. I don't think anyone would know what to do unless they are in that situation. I totally agree with you sticking around until charges were filed. If he would have ran then it is possible he never would have had to stand up for what he did to your daughter. Granted, if he would have touched my daughter I probably would have done him bodily harm. But that wouldn't have been the right thing to do because that would have only landed you in jail. I commend you on pressing charges on this man and I also commend your husband for taking you back and trying to work it out. He apparently loves you very much and your daughter is lucky to have both her parents with her at a time like this.
2006-07-25 09:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by dollfacedbaby1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you did the right thing by having this pervert charged and put in jail. I commend you for looking out for your daughter. You are also to be commended for getting back together with your husband and trying to work things out. I wish you the best.
2006-07-25 16:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. No normal man would bang a 14 year old girl. The man is now gone from your life so move on and good luck.
2006-07-25 16:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is a friggin mess! Number one, you should feel very guilty for putting your daughter in that situation! Number two your husband is a dumbass for sticking around and waiting for you! Number three, where did your daughter learn that it was ok to sleep around? Maybe from her sleazy mommy! You need counseling bad, but the one I really feel for is your daughter. She needs a real family and not this mess she has!
2006-07-25 16:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stickign around and playing it cool was okay but did you not knwo the guy well enoguh to knwo what he was up to before moving in with him and sleeping with him,. I mean you just moved in with some guy form work and started sleeping with him, whats up with that.
2006-07-25 16:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by trialtoid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was up to you the way you handled the situtation and I dont condemn you for staying. But I would have left and not worried if he ran or not. I think I might have done bodily harm to him if it was my daugher he touched
2006-07-25 16:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by angels_among_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knowing his reaction, by sticking around he was able to be apprehended and charged for his crime...I think you did the right thing once you knew what your plan was.
2006-07-25 16:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....good thing you're seeing a counselor. you may want to think about putting up your 14 yo daughter for adoption. you dont sound like a proper mother if you hung around such a situation
2006-07-25 16:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by marabierto1961 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, as long as he wasn't touching yr daughter anymore.
2006-07-25 16:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have done that personally.But yall are gone now so why dwell in the past.
2006-07-25 16:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by tiffani0611 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋