i always seem to attract girls that at first seem like abreath of fresh air then once ive fallen for them they turn out to suffer from depression and play games with me.so how do you change who you attract???
2006-07-25 08:55:15 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe you are fresh air to them and you only see your mirror?
Yes it is possible to change.
Figure some cues you could look for in someone like:
How does she sees life: from an optimistic point of view or the opposite?
What are some of the realization she did before? How did things worked, easy or always hard?
How does she deals with the unexpected?
How was she with her ex's? How did the relationship ended?
Does she tends to be the victim in her life story?
Its normal that when we start a new relationship everyone is more high than usual, by getting to know her life before you might have an idea of the kind of person she is in the long term.
Also, listen to your feelings, when you feel something funny or strange, there might be something funny or strange. That little strange thing might be the reason why you'll stop this relationship.
Good luck
2006-07-25 10:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jolia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not possible to change who you attract, what is possible is to notice more the people that are attracted to you. You say that these girls all seem to be attracted to you. There are now two possibilities.
1. That these girls all come down with depression
2. You, in some way, cause their condition
We will assume that the answer is the first, in that case you need to look and see whether there are girls with different attributes who are also appealing in some way...
In some way, we all go for a particular trait, I have noticed it in the type of girls I am attracted to. Maybe you should learn how to help them with their symptoms, or take a relationship break and spend some time on you
2006-07-25 11:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie Brown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing you can't change is your genetic make up, and attraction through genes tends to be a case of 'you have what i need'. And so there are people out there, who lack what you have to offer, and their deficiency may show itself as a character trait, which you may or may not like.
I think the best way to look at it is, you have to accept that nobody is perfect and as such we all have our down sides. So don't try and pick someone who has no downsides, instead pick someone who doesn't have the character traits that you realy hate. And in doing so except the ones they have.
Remember though, everyone gets depressed.
If you want to avoid people with stress problems, then try asking them questions about themselfs, like where they've been on holiday. The more positive their answers in regards to what they did and what it was like, will give you an indication as to how positive or negative they are. Also in my experience people who are very happy and over positive, 99% of the time, will either have or have had a problem with depresion, what goes up must come down.
I hope this helps:)
2006-07-25 09:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by K78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,some people attract the wrong partner time after time ie, an abusive partner, you give off body language subtly unconsciously, This is what attracts them, change yourself maybe u need to work on confidence, or self esteem for instance. be aware of your needs ( Different from wants ) Read up on Attraction.
2006-07-25 09:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by anthony4231 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u ever thought that u could be a different person when u meet these people?? it could be u that changes? but in answer to ur question, try finding someone that come's to you, and let them check u out first! be u at all time's u dont need to prove to anyone how good/bad u are at things, people should take u for u, and not wat they think of u......
Good luck, and i'm sure that u will meet someone that respects u enough not to change u, or that they change for u.
2006-07-25 11:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Think of it in terms of what you are hunting for. Adjust your behavior. Maybe you suffer from depression and play games?
2006-07-25 09:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm more concerned about all these poor people who seem to be well adjusted and normal till the go out with you and then they end up scarred for life......
2006-07-25 09:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by fattommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is ridiculous...? you're ashamed of it!? you need to like a woman in line with character, no longer their seems. you won't be in a position of alter what you're attracted to, your strategies will try this.
2016-10-08 07:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya just did.
I'm a fella and iv'e got the hots for you*
by the way, the hats kinda sexy!
2006-07-25 08:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is true you teach people how to treat you, I would say yes.
~Because sometimes it is rocket science.~
2006-07-25 10:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by cheekandfolly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋