Ive been with my sons dad for almost 6 yrs. My son is 2 1/2. I am about 38 weeks along with our second child.Ive tried to stay with him ( my husband) we lived together for like 3 yrs alright then things really started getting bad, he couldnt keep a job, started having raging tantrums, breaking things, throwing me around if i spoke up, selling drugs, hanging out in the "hood". stealing and staying out all night. So I moved out and in with my parents , i work i pay my own way I justcannot live with him. He stays w/somefriendsright now but they are all getting kicked out in a month. I go visit him so our son can see him but he justtakes off on his "runs " allthe time , so last time i justleft .he says im always leaving him and abandoning him. I thought he was starting to change , but now im finding other womens #s i know of who are only known for one thing,( supposed clients of his) he refuses to stop talking to them ,tells me hes making money and im acting up..im soo lost...
2006-07-25 08:32:03 · 11 answers · asked by thisreallymylife? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
what do i do when delivery time comes for this baby ?..do i call him ?
2006-07-25 09:18:37 · update #1
He is a loser!
2006-07-25 08:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that catches my attention is that he is throwing you around that is not good for you or your unborn child and can have lasting repercussions on your two year old (my first child hood memory was 2 1/2 and was the same situation) The second are the drugs. This is not the type of environment that you should have your kids around. At this point the only was to know he has"changed" is if he goes through rehab and does not hang out with his "freinds" anymore. I think you shoulnd walk but RUN the other direction
2006-07-25 15:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by kat_brant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe staying away was a good decision on your part. It sounds like you are a smart and capable woman and able to make your own way in life. Your children will need more positive role models in their life, and as long as you are honest about their father when you believe the time is right, it will be their decision to choose to have him as a dad or not. It sounds like being around this person would cause drama and abuse in your children's life. Just remember you are not alone, and there are many people, church and gov't services that can help you make the best of the circumstances you are in. Here are some sources that may be useful to you.
2006-07-25 15:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by amy_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a looser, and not a good influence on either of your children....IF and WHEN he is ready for the responsibility of the kids, then he can come to you. Keep in touch with him so he knows where you are (unless he is ever to get violent with you and threaten you or the kids anyhow), and leave it on his shoulders.
It's not up to you to be sure that the kids have a relationship with him. Just that they have the chance too. Good luck... I know it won't be easy...
2006-07-25 15:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by meflute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head up and don't look back that is the best thing that you can do for your son you don't want him to grow up and be just like his dad Don't get sucked back in
2006-07-25 15:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by Amy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP LETTING YOUR KID SEE HIM! My mom is a drug addict/alcoholic she spent our whole lives telling us we were to blame if we just helped her and took care of her she'd get better..she's now 45 living with her mother and dying of a liver disease....she is toxic and she's broken me in countless ways that i work to heal everyday...you are going to ruin your childs spirit...what may seem best is not always the best....your child's father is not safe he is toxic and he will posion your child into thinking there is something wrong with him/her. YOU HAVE GOT TO STOP!! Please coming from someone who lived this life and is severely damaged by it please don't go by emotion or what you have recently thought is best for your children....what is best is to move with your life and show your children what a good strong person is so that they don't make the mistakes of their father!
2006-07-25 15:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you might love him, but do you deserve to be treated like this? i think not! u ened to get a divorce its better for the kids, they dont need someone like that ruining their life, you need to think about the children. hes making your life miserable which will affect your children, maybe not now but later on in life it will. so do yourself a favor and the kids a favor and get a divorce and start over again. good luck
2006-07-25 15:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u'r not lost....... u'r playin Stupid...... sorry to be so blunt..... but it's true........ U know what he's up to u'r 6th sence is telling u ..... if u dont wanna listen then thats something else....... u have to think of u'r kids..... do u really want to grow up like that?..... i mean seeing the dad sell drugs and messing with other women?.... Dont get me wrong i know u have to be with u'r man threw thick and thin but everyone has there limits.......Good luck and listen to u'r heart.......
2006-07-25 15:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you all ready know what every one will probably say to this and i also think you know whats right for you and your kids.If you really want a second opinion DON'T TAKE HIM BACK and don't leave your kids with him alone.
2006-07-25 15:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by Miranda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your parents. Keep your job. Get a divorce. Keep your son away from this horrible influence.
There's an old saying that applies to him. If it looks like ****, talks like ****, walks like ****, it is ****!
2006-07-25 15:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for you and your kids is to break all ties with him. if he wants to see the kids it has to be supervised. you need to protect them and care for them and the father is not a good person.
2006-07-25 15:43:09 · answer #11 · answered by mdowney120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋