Ive been with my sons dad for almost 6 yrs. My son is 2 1/2. I am about 38 weeks along with our second child.Ive tried to stay with him ( my husband) we lived together for like 3 yrs alright then things really started getting bad, he couldnt keep a job, started having raging tantrums, breaking things, throwing me around if i spoke up, selling drugs, hanging out in the "hood". stealing and staying out all night. So I moved out and in with my parents , i work i pay my own way I justcannot live with him. He stays w/somefriendsright now but they are all getting kicked out in a month. I go visit him so our son can see him but he justtakes off on his "runs " allthe time , so last time i justleft .he says im always leaving him and abandoning him. I thought he was starting to change , but now im finding other womens #s i know of who are only known for one thing,( supposed clients of his) he refuses to stop talking to them ,tells me hes making money and im acting up..im soo lost...
2006-07-25 08:31:41 · 10 answers · asked by thisreallymylife? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear one....please accept he is who he is. Stay away from this guy.....take care of yourself and your children. Unless he is willing to seek help, there is nothing for you to do but pray for him. Be strong for yourself....you deserve so much more!!!
2006-07-25 08:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously not good for you. It is bad enough you have a two yr old plus one on the way you dont need a another child who is grown up enough to tske care of himself. Your not his mother you were his wife and he should have never put his hands on you or treat you in any misfortunate way as he has. He should have had a job no matter if it paid 5 dollars an hr or 20 an hr. He is not a man and does not deserve to have such a wonderful woman who obviously cares about him. If he wont change, which i highly doubt, then do not make the same mistake twice and go back with him. You and uyour kids deserve better then that. Trust me I have been there and have been thru some of the same things. My heart is with you.
2006-07-25 15:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not lost and you know it. let me tell you in words you can understand.....YOU ARE IN DENIAL....... i know you are a smart woman because you are taking a stand against him when you "act up" or "speak up" . i know you want the best for your children(born or not) because you moved into your parents and work to support yourself the best you can. i really don't want to sound like I'm lecturing you, b/c i know you have had enough of that, but the best thing for you to do is cut off all ties with that man. I'm not sure how long you have known him and all the bad things he has done. you know for a fact that in due time, something terrible will happen whether it be violence or law involved and if you all happen to be there, or are willing to risk your children's well being, then that's all you, but may god bless you and your children if you decide to work things out with this guy, but i imagine you know what's best
2006-07-25 15:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by MARIA G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't blame yourself! it is NOT UR FAULT. That no good, selfish, low life, bone- headed loser is the blame. You need to get over him. He doesn't want to see his child and he Will go to hell for that. You cant manage 2 kids on ur own. He at least need to pay child support. You cant blame yourself. Forget about him. He wouldn't be a good father b/c he does drugs. I AM SPEAKING FOR THE FUTURE OF YOUR KIDS HERE!!!!!! You want your kids to have an abused life? You need to report him, or forget about him or both. Please don't take him back. You will regret it later. He is the fag who is acting up. Are you the one who beats him when he says something? Do you throw tantrums?? Are you selling Drugs?? Getting fired? YOU THINK YOU CANNOT LIVE without HIM BUT YOU CAN . I have seen millions of these cases. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-07-25 15:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you shouldn't be lost at all. He's a man that is NOT worth your time. I don't care if he's the father of your child and one on the way. Your children and you would be healthier and safer away from him. Take the generosity that your parents are showing you now by taking you in, and get yourself disentangled from a man who will only drag you and your children down with him. Be strong for the sake of your kids. They need you to protect them from a tyrant like him.
2006-07-25 15:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to understand you are more valuable than a Star. It helps a lot believe our life is transcendent and of big value. With this in mind is easy to become to be: "Genuinely sincere, grateful and respectful with The One Who Gave us Life, with Nature and with ourselves" In my book "AWARENESS, The Meaning of Life" (VANTAGE PRESS NY, NY $18.95) it is free for you in the source below. Please read it and invite him to do that in a friendly way. Sincerely. You are not lost, you help a lot of people and now more than ever
2006-07-25 15:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,its high time that you just get away from this man,trust me he is no good and dont expect him to change b/c he'll never......even if he does for sometime to impress you or get you back,once he has all he'll get back to his stuff...
so you just move on and dont look back.....you can even fall in trouble b/c of him and why do you want the kids to even learn about his deeds so soon......just move on!!
2006-07-25 15:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FILE FOR DIVORCE,SAVE UP GET YOUR OWN PLACE,TAKE YOUR KIDS TO SEE HIM.DONT LET HIM KNOW WHERE YOU STAY.ANY PROBLEMS GET A RESTRAINING ORDER,MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE.USE YOUR GUT TO KNOW IF THEY ARE RIGHT
2006-07-25 15:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by DOCP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run from the trailer park now or call jerry
2006-07-25 15:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by tardboy4u2luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where is the rest of it
2006-07-25 15:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by Khan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋