My husbands best friend (and best man) offered to hand out my husbands 30th b day surprise party invites out to all their friends 2 weeks ago for me. So, i talked to his friend last week and he said yes he gave them to everyone. Well, i went to a party with my husband on saturday and when my husband went to the restroom, i asked them who was going and noone knew what i was talking about! I was so upset he did this! hes not answering my calls. Turns out, hes away until the day before the party. I felt disrespected. So i told my husband and my husband saud that its my fault and i shouldve handed them out! Shouldnt he say something to stick up for me?? He never does!
2006-07-25 08:13:30 · 28 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Okay, i just told my husband that im angry and he said he will say something to him. But imstill mad because he didnt want to in the first place!
2006-07-25 08:20:48 · update #1
I think you should talk to the guy directly.
2006-07-25 08:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to pick your battles.
Let this one go.
Start over with the party invites.
Tell hubby that you'll just have to do something simple instead of a big surprise party now that so much time has gone by. Tell hubby that you're sorry that you got all bent outta shape over it.
Go on with the b-day celebration as if this never happened.
And thank the so-called best friend for all his "help". Act sincere when you thank him, he'll know he's an idiot. Then never give him a role again, because he's too irresponsible, and now you and he both know that.
Your husband likely doesn't want to get involved in this squabble between you, and his friend. And no, I do not think he should confront his friend on your behalf over party invites that he should not have been aware of.
Save the actual fit throwing for a situation that causes actual long term damage. Life is long. Do you really want to inflict this anger into your husbands birthday celebration so that he'll always remember what a brat you were? Instead, let this be the party you pulled off in spite of the difficulties. It is his birthday, how would you feel if it were you're birthday? P.O.'d at your friend or not, it wouldn't be fair to have no party or to have all the drama during your party.
Good luck
2006-07-25 15:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man does not really seem to be your husband's '''best''' freind. I dont know why he would do that, but then probably your husband is feeling bad too on the fact that his best freind let you down and he just probably doesnt want to admit in front of you. Ofcourse, it looks like he did not stick up for you, but Iam sure he would really have some nasty things to tell his ''best'' freind as well.
The harms done. How about surprising this ''best''freind instead by making out a list on your own, exclude him, make the party really wonderful.....and it still would be a surprise cos' this time it will be you and only you who will decide and make the list, and organise it on your own with help from maybe ''your'' freinds....not only would your husband have pleasant surprise (that his bday party wasnt spoilt after all), but his ''best'' freind too would be surprised that you did it on your own, and probably get the message across....ofcourse, you could have a real talk with him once its over...till then, its not too late, iam sure you would come up with something better...
good luck !!
2006-07-25 15:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have your husband fight a battle about HIS birthday party. You should tell tell guy off yourself. Yeah, your husband should stick up for you, but at the same point in time, this is supposed to be something YOU are doing for HIM. He shouldn't be stuck dealing with it. The other guy is a jerk, but its time to make up for his slack.
I think people on this are just telling you what you want to hear. Your husband should not be responsible for his own party that YOU are throwing. Its not gonna change that the friend is a jerk and it sucks, but at least yer husband will understand why some people didnt show up.
2006-07-25 15:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's friend is a jerk. I mean he even said he gave them out and he didn't, what kind of **** is that? And now your husband it blaming you... I don't know, if I were in your shoes I would be so mad I'd lose my lid, but that's me. Ok, try to explain calmly to your husband why he isn't being fair, and he needs a new "best friend", seriously. If you can't sort this out with him, there is something really wrong here.
2006-07-25 15:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute - you gave your husband's Friend something to help out with the party, he blows it off and your husband blames YOU?
Tell your husband he needs to make up his mind who he wants to treat like the person who tried to do something nice for him. That is THE most inconsiderate thing I've ever heard of next to just telling you to leave.
There is a lack of respect for your effort on your husbands part and he needs to grow up. My wife and I have been married for over 20 years and if she makes an effort like that I let EVERYONE know how grateful I am.
2006-07-25 15:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your problem first of all was that you left it up to him to do something that was your idea anyway. If you want something done, do it yourself. Especially when it comes to handling details, men aren't good at that at all.
But I would chew out the best friend when I see him and if he argues back with you, tell your husband. If he don't stand up for you, he's a fricking little girl for not giving you the protection and reassurance you need. Tell him you need a real man.
2006-07-25 15:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by geewhizbaby2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so here is the shame list on which u come last (u didnt do anything wrong) ur husband comes 2nd and the "friend" comes first. talk 2 ur husband and try to tell him that u don't understand y he is mad @ u??if u have to go knock on the friends door and ask him what the heck happened. GOOD LUCK
2006-07-25 15:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he should. No disrespect, but it sounds like your husband is a wimp. I would say screw the party. If he can excuse what his friend didn't do and lay the blame at your feet he doesn't deserve the effort you were going to put into this thing for him.
2006-07-25 15:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hubby has a good point. There is a reason that people say "If I want something done right, I do it myself". Granted, the friend SHOULD have done his job (as easy as it was) properly. However, you shouldn't depend on other people to do the job, since most people are morons. Yeah, your hubby should have stuck up for you, but he has a good point too.
Bottom line: You'd better get your *** in gear if you want to have a party still.
2006-07-25 15:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you probably should have just asked the friend for a list and then handed them out yourself, but now just find out who should be there and do the best you can do. Your husband, well I think he's wrong for blaming you, but honey, don't sweat the small stuff. It's okay
2006-07-25 15:31:48 · answer #11 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋