What do I do if my best freind is dating this guy and he is always rude to her. And he does drugs, never pays any attention to her, act like she's invisible, doesnt care about her and my best friend thinks he's cheating on her. Also she broke up with him once but he said he supposedly "Cried in the bathroom for an hour and looked at her pictures" So she got back with him. Also another one of my best friends hates him and is always nagging her to break up with him. She is one of my best friends and she deserves the best.
2006-07-25 08:13:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to be subtle. If you tell her straight out that the man she obviously at least likes an awful lot is no where near good enough for her, she's probably won't take it too well.
Start by finding a time when he's just been really rude and hasn't apologized or anything yet. That's the time when she'll probably be most receptive to comments, but you must make sure not to hurt her feelings.
Chances are if you mention his rudeness, she'll wave it off as a mistake of her own. You need to tell her straight away that it's not always her fault. Make sure she knows that you don't think badly of her or that it was her fault.
Then maybe point out another time he's done the same thing, and show her that that time wasn't her fault either. That's brought you onto the point of his being rude twice.
Now is a good time to try and focus her attention on the fact that, he treats her like dirt. maybe just say that you've noticed that hes upset her a few times recently, and think that maybe she should take a look at their relationship.
You'll need to take it from there, as you know the ins and outs of the problem, but I will say one thing. Don't bring up the question of his cheating on her unless she says she suspects it herself. And even then, don' tell her which m8 it is that thinks he's cheating. It could ruin their friendship.
I hope that helps. Good luck!
2006-07-25 08:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend should think about how he makes her feel and how he treats her and if the cons out weigh the pros she has the answer. Alot of women put up with things, that they shouldn't have to, because they are scared to be alone. You should tell her your feelings without the feeling of forcing her to make a decision. And don't forget to tell her that you love her and she DOES DESERVE THE BEST!!
2006-07-25 15:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by ndemby05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to explain to her that this guy is not good for show that she can do much better then that.if she doesnt want to listen all u can do is stand by her side and b there when she needs
2006-07-25 15:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by sandra b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can tell her to get out but they usually dont until they hit rock bottom so u can show her life can be betta than what she has without him. if otha friends help out then hopfully it will get her to understand shes betta without him ultimately its up to her if she wants to get out or not
2006-07-25 15:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her this guy is a jerk and tell her he is cheating on her. works everytime!
2006-07-25 15:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-25 17:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by heavenwithchrist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋