I had a strange dream last night. Can someone interpret it for me?

Question

I am engaged to the most awesome guy and his ex wife has their 3 daughters living with her.

In my dream, I was asleep. When I woke up, my fiance and his ex were in the room talking, and their oldest daughter (15 year old) was hiding in the corner. My fiance saw that I was awake and he said that he had something to tell me. I looked at him and his ex, then back at him and said 'you two are getting back together, aren't you.' He said yes. His ex told me that it may not even work out and then I can have him back. I got soooooo mad!! I told her that I took back my ex husband and ended up in a 20 year miserable marriage and I won't make that mistake again. His daughter came out of the corner and went into the bathroom crying. Her mother went to console her while my fiance and I talked. I guess we had gotten each other rings and he gave me back his. I took it and threw it out the bedroom door. He was asking how I could do that. I got really mad then!

I told him 'HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME!! I don't have a job, my parents are dead, and I have no place to live, and i have animals to take care of!' He didn't say anything. I then woke up.

What could this dream mean? Does it have anything to do with the insecurities I have about relationships because of the 20 year bad one I was in and all the other bad ones I had before that? Any help would be great!

My fiance and his ex do NOT get along. He only goes to her place to see his daughters. Period. I have seen them together and they do NOT want to be together. So, I know it's not that. They don't even talk well about each other. I do plan to talk with him about this dream tonight, but I just wanted to see what others thought about it first.

He works long, hard hours at a farm that is 1/2 hour away from us. He leaves about 6 am and is home between 7 and 11 pm, depending on when the boss says he can go home. I know he is at work as I call him and can hear the machinery (I have gone to work with him before and know the sounds of the machines). I know that he loves me, and I love him. I just think that I am afraid that what happened to me in the past will happen again. He knows all about my past, what my marriage was like, etc. He treats me with the utmost love, respect, and kindness that I have never had from anyone else. I just think its fear.

Answer 1

First of all, tell your fiance about your dream. Let him be the one to reassure you that your insecurities are just that -- insecurities. Your past experience with your own unhappy marriage has left you questioning your own happiness.

I am not a psychologist, but it does appear to me that your dream is based on your fears and insecurities. You are playing out in your subconscious mind your worst case scenario and dealing with it. (Did you notice that, in your dream, you didn't wither up and die?!)

Question -- Would your fiance EVER REALLY get back with his ex? Doubtful... since he asked you to marry him.

Seriously, talk things over with your fiance and put your worries to rest. Tell him about your dream and let him ease your mind.

Answer 2

Everyone is going to give you their best guess, but a dream is a highly subjective experience and it's meaning is going to be specific to you as an individual. There are several resources available to help you better understand the meaning of your dreams, e.g., books, websites, etc. I'd recommend getting yourself a dream dictionary. You'll be able to look up the different scenarios, symbols, and events that happen in your dreams in the index. These meanings will be what some psychologist or therapist thinks is the meaning of the dream, maybe they are right, or maybe they are not.
There is alot of information online about dream analysis, dream interpretation, and dream psychology. Also, there are some good resources on Lucid Dreaming. Read. Do some research. You will find better answers to your questions.

Answer 3

I think this dream does speak to you about your deep worries from the past. I almost want to say this dream is warning you about something. Do you trust him? Why do you fear 20 miserable years? Is this an extension of a pattern? The part about him and his wife getting back together represents what happened to you in the past, so you do need to revisit that situation and make sure you are not repeating it. The second part of the dream tells you that you are afraid for your security. I think his 15 year old daughter is really how you feel about your security. When it comes to security do you feel cornered? The fact that he doesn't answer when you ask what will happen to you means that you have to answer that question. If this doesn't work out, do you have a plan? Your subconscious and your heart want you to figure that out. Remember exaggeration is common in dreams. It is meant to make us pay attention. I was part of a dream group for almost 3 years and it has helped me tremendously.

Answer 4

No one here will be able to give you the difinitive truth to your dream. We do not know you or him, but I will try to take a stab at it.

I would guess that you are having this dream out of some deeper fear that you will be again betrayed. I would also say that there is probably some truth, at least in the back of your mind, that some of this might happen due to some signals you have seen.
The girl in the corner is and is not you and she represents the fearful waiting for the outcome of this relationship.

I would wonder, given this dream, if you are really trusting him, or if you have seen things that you chose to ignore that your subconscience mind is trying to bring to the fore.

Tread lightly now and maybe pull back from this relationship and see if any of this plays out.

But I could be wrong!

Answer 5

it seems as though you feel like you will loose you fiance. I guess since you spent 20 years in a bad relationship you will always look out for the negative since that is what you are already used to. Give him a chance and see how it works out before you ruin the relationship. Have a talk with you fiance and tell him exactly how you are feeling and see where you go from there.

Answer 6

Your dream was just a manifestaion of your fears. Your greatest fear would seemto be of abandonment (divorce, death etc..) and as long as he has an ex that he has three kids with, there is always a chance they would reconcile.

Security begins from within. These fears may start to creepoutin your everyday life. My suggestion is to perhaps sit down with a therapist and chase away the demons of your past.

Answer 7

It seems like you are insecure about this relationship. Your dream is about relationship. You don't trust yourself rather than your finance. You dare not to open up. As a result, you project the negative images and wordings from your "awesome" guy.

Subconsciously, you are afraid to face that fact that he had a family and you afraid to take over as "Step"

The worries you have in your dream shows that you are willing to commit but not willing to accept the fact that you are unease and insecure about all these.

I think you need to talk to him and open up more about his daughter and his family. Better communication will definitely fix the problem between you and his family (daughter)

Answer 8

I think it has everything to do with you insecurities. Dreams often reflect our sub conscious thoughts about real life issues. I'm sure you have trust issues and are terrified of being in a commited relationship again.

The daughter crying is a good sign, it shows that you believe that she cares for you and her dad's relationship with you.

I would communicate your thoughts to your fiance and make it clear that you may have trust issues. I'm sure he'll re-assure you. If not, make it clear that you will kill him if he get's back with his EX!!!!! JK!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Since 'he' is still supporting the PAST why do 'you' want to be fulllilled by a chance encounter....go on trips to different states and join in some 'public' interests that 'you' have developed over the years and find someone not attached....'might' be 'you' have substance that 'others' want without 'you' being in the 'picture'....starting over requires a complete break from the past for a fresh out-look....