I can't seem to talk to new people, especially if I feel intimidated.. It's to all people really, my peers, teachers, counselors etc.. Shiz, I wouldn't even walk into a store that made me feel intimidated. I just get very socially awkward and nervous then I start blinking and keepy my answers short. I have really great friends, I love hanging with them, but one day I'm going to have to let them go. I fear I'll have trouble making new friends. If you don't talk to me, I won't talk to you.. I'm not a b****.. I'm just scared. How can I get over this?
2006-07-25 07:34:36 · 6 answers · asked by ockristy 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Getting yourself out there is the best way to go. Go into a store that makes you "scared". Talk to people inside; if you see a person buying a similar thing or something that looks good, compliment them. Another way to go is to go to a crowded place, maybe a party or gathering of some sort. Voice your opinion to the group, make them hear you. Eventually this will help and you will become more comfortable speaking to others.
2006-07-25 07:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by shammy417 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol, happens to me all the time, lol honestly the only thing i could think of that would possible help it, is to do what i do, and that is just DO IT lol, i am always shy and sometimes it is right to leave it off, if it isent such a big deal, but things like walking into stores and getting nervious is just something you will have to work with, try generally going out and shopping alone, as boring as it could be it dosent matter, becuase the 1st time of anything is scary, and if someone pro-longs that time then its going to be harder, so practice it, and you'll come away thinking, that was SOOOO easy, wtf was i worried about, good luck.
AND! its not garenteed that you will lose contact with all friends, no one can see the future, and instead of looking to the future focus on what is at hand now, hope this helps :-)
2006-07-25 14:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by Seanio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imagine the person/people as when they were young children or elderly. i read this in "don't sweat the small stuff".i believe.Have you ever noticed how it is so easy to talk to a child or the elderly? you have to remember that, well, in my opinion atleast, the children and the elderly are the smartest of them all. they don't put on shows/facades, ect...they're just who they are. you've probably felt pressure to measure up to a certain standard. just be who you are and practice talking to people ... being yourself., not who you feel you are suppose to be. also, don't "think" about how to do it ...instead "imagine" good results in a mental picture and it will help. "thinking" about it will only make it worse, most likely...get a book on using imagery to overcome fears.
2006-07-25 16:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds lame.....but practice. Whatever you do, whatever you try, you won't wake up one morning and be completely over your shyness. Just take it easy, and practice. When you're at the store, school, work, wherever, just start by saying hi to people when you walk by them. It's easier with old people, they're pretty nice. Just smile and say hi. Then you can build up to asking people how they are doing or whatever.
2006-07-25 14:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by Insert Nickname Here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya...make due with small talk. don't worry what strangers might think when approached. Sucks that others' might think otherwise...
Don't try too hard to make an effort to chat away, you don't know what the other person's personality is...
2006-07-25 15:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Introverted White Waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest obstacle is not worrying about what people think of you. Self confidence is a huge blow to shyness.
2006-07-25 21:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by foxray43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋