My freind, iv know her for 5 years she is very independent and she love here 1 year old boy, Im 19, she's 19 and she is dating a guy she doesnt like but she has a kid so she doesnt want to be alone, she told me the other day that she liked me and that im really nice, truthfully i like her since 5 years ago, whats it like dating a girl with a kid? should i be worried about it? i really do care about her!!
2006-07-25 07:33:43 · 12 answers · asked by coop c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The first thing you have to understand is that her whole life is that child. The child's needs will always be met first, even before her own. Or yours, for that matter. If you truly love/like her then you will understand that about her and be supportive. She will not be able to go out like others your age. She first has to think about child care, before even considering it. When it comes to dating a woman with a child, you have to get close with her child too. A woman's heartstrings are attached to their children. Hurt or disappoint the child and you will be hurting and disappointing the mother. If you are ready to be a possible father figure then take it slow and spend some time with her and her child. Do family oriented things that involve the 3 of you. Only occasionally make plans for just her and you to go out. If she sees that you only want to spend time with her and not her child she will think that you are selfish. Be sure you know what you intend out of this relationship before you proceed. It was also mentioned before...anyone could be a father..but it takes someone special to be a dad. The fact that she has a son is, in a way, is good for you. You can play catch and do all sorts of "boy" things with him. Weigh all your options. When you have made your mind up, then make your move...but not until then....good luck...
2006-07-25 07:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by teashy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about her the child is an extra bonus. You need to include the child in most of what you do. He will feel left behind or left out and that could cause problems for her. I'm not saying either that you shouldn't have time to yourself either. Every couple needs time for themselves you have to to keep your sanity. Show him lot's of love and affection and just let him know your there for him as well as his mother. The age of the child will make a difference as to how he will react to you, but if you truly care about her you will make the effort with her son. I'm a single mother to a 4 year old little boy so I know what I'm talking about. Children are a huge entertainment and you might just find you like playing daddy to this little boy.
2006-07-25 07:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a lot of work. You really need to be emotionally invested in this because the child can become really attached to you and begin to think of you as a father figure. She will be potty training, wiping tears in the middle of the night, etc. If she is worth that type of commitment, and she may very well be, then go for it. However, if you are having doubts about whether or not that is something you can deal with, I say leave her alone and do not mess with her head. She is already vulnerable enough. Do not date her unless you have serious intentions.
2006-07-25 07:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 26 my girlfriend is 23. we have a five year old together. my opinion is biased because its my child but its kind of like having another little person on a date with you. if you give the child a chance, it will wrap itself around your heart as small children usually tend to do. your social life kind of suffers and sometimes what you want has to be put on hold but that is where selflessness comes in.(thats the opposite of selfishness.) think of things that you could do together with the child and she will fall in love with you very quickly. women love guys who think of the child especially if its not theirs. just remember hes a child and not a burden. if you are nervous about being with her and the child then don't get involved with her other than friendship.
2006-07-25 07:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Christian H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sons father is a piece of sht. My boyfriend of 4 years didn't really mind I had a son but thought he didn't have to deal with a kid until he wanted to but he loves my son and calls him son. Just remember anyone can be a father but only special people are called dad!!! If you really like her then be with her and except the kid if not move on and don't think about it.
2006-07-25 07:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you've known her for quite a while that should be enough for you to want to date her. You obviously are around her enough to know what she is like with her child. Dating a woman with a child means that you not only need to spend time with her, but also with her child.
2006-07-25 07:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by martini_kiss81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about her youll know that she really loves her kid and you should respect that about her. Its not the worst thing in the world to have a relationship with someone that has a child.
2006-07-25 07:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like her and she likes you.. try to get to know the kid.. if you can both get along well.. then you would obviously have an easy going relationship. i don't have personal experience with this.. but i would almost think that dating someone with a child would be a lot like dating someone with a younger sibling.
2006-07-25 07:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by h_c_a_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of three and I think if you really like her AND THE KID go for it. kids are fun and they can be a handful but you should at least try.
DAISY
2006-07-25 07:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u have to see what kinda guy he is ...he may be so good but if hes not yeah u should be worried about her ...no doubt!!! but then again if u like her just talk to her about it since she doesn't like that guy
2006-07-25 07:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋