Should I tell her how I feel?

Question

Another question about my father's ashes. My father requested to leave them in a special place so after he passed away, my mother divided them in half and gave me half to place where he wanted to be left. My husband and I did this alone since my mother and sister had a fear of travelling to this place (it involved height). Now, my mother wants her own closure and wants to release the rest where SHE wanted them. I feel that I've already had closure 3 years ago and I feel that I was rewarded for this with the birth of my son (concieved later that months after 8 years of infertility). My mother will expect me to be 'there' for her emotionally and I just don't think I can do that. Should I tell her this? She's the type that does not take other people's feelings into consideration.

Sarah - since you put it that way maybe I should be okay with her new friend coming along. I'll have to talk to my sister (she had her own closure, too).

Answer 1

You need to sit down and gently tell her that you have closure and that to go through this again will only dredge up old feelings.What about your sister or another member of the family,there must be somebody else who could be there with your mum for emotional support......Good luck.